I recently completed training to become a Hawai`i Certified Peer Specialist in mental health. As a person with mental illness, this certification will allow me to work with others in the same boat and help them wherever they are on their journey in recovery.
One of the segments of the training and one of my personal demons was about negative self-talk. I know it well. All those rapid-fire thoughts pounded at my mind calling me “worthless,” “crazy,” “stupid,” and worse.
In the course, I was required to write a Wellness Recovery Action Plan, and it changed my life. I don’t know why it had such a revolutionary effect on my life, but it did. The vehement negative self-talk is gone.
It may have something to do with a word @Mariah mentioned: action. In writing my WRAP, I started with the “List of What I’m Like When I’m Well.” Seeing that page of words like flamboyant, responsible, sober, dramatic, witty, articulate, etc. made something click in my brain. Putting it down on paper for the first time ever changed the dynamic of the exercise. I’d used positive affirmations before until I was blue in the face, but I didn’t believe them at heart. This time I was faced with a list written by my own hand that said things differently from the negative crap rolling around inside my head.
Since writing my WRAP, I’ve had a few instances of those old words popping up. I learned in my training to open my WRAP and simply read it out loud. There are many more sections to a WRAP, and I also refer to those. One important part is the “Daily Maintenance Plan” which lists in detail the things I do to stay healthy each day. Reading these pages reminds me that I am a person in recovery. I am worth it.
I look in a mirror today and like what I see. It’s the first time in my life this has happened. It’s a sea change.
Here is a list of great techniques for stopping negative self-talk, and each involves action.
breathing exercises: in through the nose and out through the mouth slowly
washing the dishes: speak out loud the exact action your hands are doing while they are doing it
exercise: speak out loud what your body is doing exactly while it’s doing it
walk through a park: speak out loud to the plants and animals
Does anyone see the common theme? It’s action and speech. It’s getting outside the head.
WRAP may not be the answer for anyone here. It’s not meant to be completed alone. It originated in a group, and it’s meant to be passed on that way. Still, I wanted to share my experience, strength, and hope.
Negative self-talk doesn’t have to rule one’s life.