Have you converted to the religion of your spouse or lover, and if so, how did that turn out?

Not yet, she fell off the fence years ago to join the athiest herd whilst I remain firmly on it with the other agnostic splinter bums.

My ex became a Catholic before we married. She wanted to know more about the church, and decided on her own to join. But she became somewhat disillusioned with some of the stances, and after a priest told her that it was an all-or-none deal, she stopped participating. Now she is an Easter/Christmas attendee, if she can get her act together to make it to church on time.

While not converting I have, in the past, attended church with my spouse. I even had the children christened because it was important to her and her family. I did not care either way and had to argue with a drunk Irish priest (yes, I know this is stereotypical but also true) to get him to do it since I was not “of the faith” and refused to become so.
1 – I do not think I did it to humor my wife as much as to make her happy. It neither helped nor hindered me.
2 – No, it did not take.
3 – We are still together and, actually, finding herself at odds with many of their beliefs, she became dissillusioned with the faith and no longer attends. She has talked about looking into a more accepting religion (like the Unitarians) but has not make a serious attempt to find a new church; probably because the kids are grown and I have not expressed any interest.

Yes, I did. Big mistake. I felt like I was living a lie. Unfortunately his love for me was contingent on me being a member of his church, so we are no longer together.

My ex didn’t convert but he went along with my desire to raise the children as Jews.

My husband converted to my religion. Totally his idea and his choice. I think it took, but neither of us are very religious. He believes in God, and doesn’t get caught up in the details. He has a very Jewish name so now his religion fits his name. His father was raised Jewish and converted to Catholicism. His father is a religious man, but also sort of does not get very caught up in the details. Although, I think as he grew older, and also moving to America, made him think more about his Jewish upbringing and roots. I never had a deep conversation with him about it, but when his father died he did everything prescribed by Judaism to mourn him. He still sometimes goes to service on Yom Kippur for them. But, he also goes with his wife almost weekly to Mass on Sunday.

I know two women who converted to Judaism for their marriage who became very Jewish. One reformed, one orthodox. They raised their children Jewish and you would never guess they were ever anything else, they love Judaism, love identifying as Jewish people, and raised their children in the religion.

My dad did it.
And because of some complications it took a couple years for him to become a Roman Catholic, then he married my mom in the church. It took some serious dedication to the process.

He always seemed happy he did it and was an involved parishioner.
I’m sure he undertook it because he loved my mom, but he was also very honest and made a genuine commitment to the faith and making it part of his life.

I think that @Skaggfacemutt‘s experience illuminates an important concern. One shouldn’t convert to a new religion if you’re not in tune with it in your heart and soul. Integrity is such a fundamental aspect of most faiths.

Thanks for your answers. There don’t seem to be any easy generalizations that apply here. I read an anecdote by a young woman who converted to Catholicism after getting turned on to it by her boyfriend. This guy subsequently knocked her up—and begged her to get an abortion! She was heartbroken. She dumped the guy, kept the baby, and stayed in her new church. But I’m sure that’s not a typical story.