(NSFW) Do you "prep" before '"back door intimacy"?
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April 2nd, 2013
I have been sexually active for quite a while and have had many partners. I am not shy about it by any means.
Having said it, I have only had anal sex a few times, and it was with a girlfriend who introduced me to the idea.
She was very meticulous about it. She gave herself an enema, took a shower, used scents etc etc before we did it. In that regard, she was sort of my mentor.
My current girlfriend comes from a culture that vigorously suppresses female sexuality. But she is curious about things that she has not experienced, and she asked me if I wanted to do it. I told her I did not really care, but if she wanted to do it, she should do those things that I saw my past girlfriend do ( I didn’t talk about the other GF, just described the process).
She said it seemed like a lot of trouble. And that is OK with me. I don’t need ass fucking to make me happy.
But I am a product of my “upbringing”.
Was my previous “mentor” going to a lot of trouble, or was her preperation a reasonable standard?
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Good question, man. More people should think about this rather than assume it’s just like you see in porn… There’s lots of prep going into anal sex in porn, only you don’t see it.
In my opinion, it’s more about safety and comfort. So, lube, practice, and communication are more important than an enema and scents or whatever. But whatever you need to do to feel comfortable and relaxed with this is more likely to lead to a good time for everyone.
Good luck and enjoy.
The prep that the OP mentioned is the prep I would do. Maybe not the scents, but the enema and/or suppository. Better safe than a sorry messy experience!
The prep is up to the couple. Some women do all that, some don’t. My only advice is once you have done anal, don’t go directly to vaginal, it can cause an infection for the woman.
Great question. I’ve had several mates who wanted to try. None went through any special prep and I never pulled out with a mess on my magic wand. But I do know that shit happens. Personally, it would be no big deal to me. As everyone here knows, I’m fascinated by just about every paraphilia known to humanity. But certainly, if anyone would be freaked out if some shit leaked out, then either avoid anal or make sure the area is shit free.
My first impression after reading the question was that you were asking about lube. My answer was hell yeah, you’d better! But after reading the details…
I personally have no interest in anal sex but, if I were to try it, I would definitely do the enema or at the very least stick a soapy finger in there during a thorough pre-anal shower. However, there’s no “standard” for this. It varies, and is something that should be discussed between partners beforehand.
Feces are not stored in the rectum, so there usually isn’t a mess to worry about. But I’m anal (pun intended) about hygiene before sex anyways, so this would be no different.
Not that frequent but, other than a shower beforehand maybe, and a lube, no.
A quick wash with a wash cloth is all we do.
We don’t do “tradesmen’s entrance” & if we did i’d make sure I woke her up first.
I guess it is on a case by case basis. Other than having her take a dump at least 45 min before rear entry the only other preparation is using the right lube, maybe a toy to help her relax and stretch the ol’ poop chute. Then go in slow. An enema seems like a good ideal but unless ate 6 hours before there is not much in the plumbing a healthy dump could not clean out.
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