Is my boyfriend getting bored of me?

Does he want you to “chase” him in the way he did at the start of your relationship? His comment of ‘you not being as into the relationship as he was’ makes me wonder if he’s testing you. Otherwise, if you are leaving the country in a couple of months maybe he is trying to create some distance now so it won’t hurt as much when you leave.

If you are holding back because you’re afraid of getting hurt later, then you need to figure out why that is and go from there. Love can’t conquer all, try communicating to him what you are feeling and then go from there. Trust your gut. Good luck

I don’t think “bored” is the right term. Sounds like he was not convinced after your conversation that you like him enough for him to invest more time in the relationship.

If someone told me that she would “be serious in this relationship” but wasn’t already, I think I would realize that she isn’t that interested in me.

The best way, in my opinion, to handle this is to smile when you see him tomorrow, but tell him you missed him this week. And then see what he says.

@BosM thanks a lot :) that helps!

@zenvelo i think you’re right. He thinks that i’m not serious enough because i still go to party during the weekend, but i still want my freedom even though i’m in a relationship. I don’t like being tied down. But i’m interested/like him.
we argued a little just now through text messages. He told me he couldn’t make it tomorrow so he will only come on sunday night and leaves on monday morning, so i told him not to come because its a far trip. We’ve decided not to meet this week.
He said i’m not understanding, how can i be understanding if he’s being so weird?
If a guy truly likes a girl, he would find a time to text or call her for a while even though he is busy right? but my boyfriend isn’t the same. He doesn’t even text me that often. We’ve only been dating for a month, not a year. How could he changed so fast? :(

Maintaining a long distance relationship can be difficult. Look at it from his point of view. He has invested a lot of time traveling back and forth and he is afraid that you might just decide to walk out on him.

Would it be possible for you to occasionally go to his place? He might feel then feel that you are committed to the relationship.

It sounds to me like this is a fairly young relationship and possibly both of you like the idea of having a boyfriend/girlfriend more than really liking each other. If you are leaving the country in a month or two, maybe this is not the time to be in a relationship.

“bored with me” (not of)

It could be several things. He could be pulling back in preparation for your leaving.

He could be wanting you to show more that you care (like tell him you were upset that he could not come Thursday or that he was texting you less). You need to show him that you care.

He knows you are leaving so he is probably pulling away to protect himself emotionally. If he skipped class for a full week to be with you, I don’t think he is a good catch anyway. That is a lot of school to skip, doesn’t sound wise to me. I think move on to the next thing in your life and don’t spend too much time on this relationship.

A relationship involves two people. It sounds to me like he was involved and you weren’t. You keep mentioning things that he fails to do, but you don’t seem to be fully interested either.

I think @janbb hit it on the head: you both had a little fling, you are getting ready to leave and he is checking out early. I think you might as well declare this over.

Try not initiating any texts over the weekend. If he doesn’t reach out to you, it’s over.

Some boys and men play a game of cat and mouse.
It goes like this: He plays an unusual amount of attention for three weeks, then deserts you.
The premise being..that you are to chase him.
They create a need in you ( emotional attatchment) then hope thatt you take the bait and follow them!( and emotionally unravel).
Upsurp this immature behavior in the bud, by doing the opposite…leave him alone!
He may have been trying to get you to put out before you leave for your trip?
On the other hand he may have been trying to just check IF he has the power to attract ?
Which ever it is it is HIS problem not yours, so you decide if you want this type of confusing behavior in your relationships or not?
IF he is game playing now, he will continue in this immature style since he can hook you.
Look for more enlightened respectful companions,

Why is he acting so weird when i’ve decided to be serious with him? Should I stop being serious with him? because i’m afraid i might get hurt later.

Your age is…?

I’m very confused. You say that you’ve only been dating for a month, but then you said that he can only see you after school on Thursdays, and on the weekends, plus the first week where he skipped school. That isn’t even a month, really. This whole thing has just started and it started with a bang and you haven’t really had the time to get to know each other or set out a plan.

And, on top of that, you are going to leave the country in 3 months.

Most relationships evolve over time, but they also have a definite starting period and then the couple moves from like, to lust to love to warm fuzzy love etc. And in the meantime, you both get to know each other and what you want from a relationship. This relationship is not like that. It seems like you two only get together when it is convenient (even though you weren’t particularly interested in him in the first place) but then you are hoping that it would be like a real relationship where the couple sees each other on a regular basis and gets to know each other in a linear way.

This “relationship” is too new and too disconnected for either of you to feel comfortable or as if you are actually in a relationship. Your guy probably has mixed emotions about this whole unfortunate thing. It really is hard to carry on a successful relationship, when one doesn’t know what the plan is, or where they stand or if there is a chance of the relationship continuing after you leave. Everything is nebulous and tentative and un-defined.

You haven’t been together long enough, nor have you developed a plan or a routine and you barely know each other and you know that it is going to end shortly.

I think this whole situation was rather ill advised.

Parts of his behavior which you described sound rather manipulative and controlling to me. But the good part is that you aren’t playing according to his script and he’s most likely recognized that.

As someone else observed, the fact that he would just cut an entire week of classes to be with you is not as wonderful as you may think (even tho any girl would find it flattering). It speaks more to a serious lack of judgement a d emotional immaturity; these are not great qualities to be seeing in someone with whom you would want a stable long-term relationship.

If he wants to depart because he can’t control you to his satisfaction then let him. It’s no great loss for you. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.