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Problem with e-mails from lonely russian woman.

Asked by Dr_Lawrence (20019points) April 13th, 2013

She says she got my name confidentially from a travel agent. (That can’t be). She clearly wants to be wanted by some man in Canada or the USA. She e-mails are polite, a little over enthusiastic. She has included some innocent photographs of herself and has asked me reasonable questions which I have not answered.

I have told her repeatedly that I am happily married and not interested in any girlfriend or other woman.

I even translated my letter into Russian and included that at the bottom of the English letter.

I can’t see where in all this there is any sign of a scam. Despite my bilingual polite rejections, she seems entirely undeterred.

I see no option but to stop replying to her e-mails. I do hate to seem rude but I have nothing to offer her and I want nothing from her.

Is there so other course of action I can take at this point?

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glacial's avatar

Blocking the email address and deleting the email would have been my first reaction. In fact, I have done this several times to very polite young women of various nationalities who want nothing more than my friendship (or so they tell me). It may not look like a scam now, but eventually it would end up there. And… it’s highly unlikely that she is actually a lonely Russian woman.

Kardamom's avatar

I can’t help but think that it is some sort of scam, waiting for you to reply to her and then something awful will happen. Don’t let it! You have told her that you are not interested. You know that your e-mail address was obtained in an unsavory manner. Your best bet is to ignore her and report her to your internet provider as a spammer.

I also agree with @glacial. Blocking is better than simply ignoring.

Dr_Lawrence's avatar

I will Blacklist her on my e-mail server!

chyna's avatar

I had a friend that had the same thing happen. He really felt bad for her, she was having a bad life etc. She eventually asked him to buy her a plane ticket to the states, or send her money to get one. I think that is the scam part. He actually was thinking of helping her, but then she asked for money for her family. He had to block her after he realized it was a money scam.

whitenoise's avatar

If it walks like a duck….

ETpro's avatar

Damn. You mean all those women writing me are not really just smitten to their core with love and lust for someone with my ravishing good looks. What a letdown.

Judi's avatar

Have your wife reply for you. Tell her that a disaster has happened in your family and you need money. Since she’s such a good friend you are sure she will be able to help you out.

LuckyGuy's avatar

Best case this is like getting a letter from the wife of the ex-foreign minister of Nigeria wanting to work with a trusted individual so she can split the money in an unclaimed bank account. Scam.
Worst case, by clicking on the picture attachment you placed a back door on your pc giving a hacker access. I hope your virus protection is up to date and you do not have any exceptions selected on the scanning options page.
Have you noticed your pc running slower recently?

pleiades's avatar

You got a Russian woman? Lucky! I’m still getting African men.

trailsillustrated's avatar

Scam. It’s actually young men in internet cafes writing these and using stock photographs. Don’t respond or open even one.

flutherother's avatar

It is clearly not genuine. I would ignore it and report it as spam. I’m sometimes tempted to pretend to fall for these scams to see how far I can take it. Give me her email address. I may contact her to say I am a lonely Scottish man who got her email address confidentially from a travel agent.

LuckyGuy's avatar

I would be very careful opening anything attached to those emails – or even the email itself!
they are not not always simple Nigerian 419 Scams. They can carry a payload that installs itself on your machine. If you are going to fool around with on e of those make sure you have it. in a sandbox and get full header info.
If you have your mail set to auto-preview and auto-open, you are playing with fire.

Please tell Svetlana that my brother, Shlomo, is still waiting for her at the airport

LuckyGuy's avatar

@glacial I’ll PM you.

Berserker's avatar

I didn’t want to have to do this, but since you’re not replying to my mails, I followed you all the way here. lol

Sounds like a scam to me. Hell sometimes we get similar trolls on Fluther, where some random ass smack gives PM’s professing their eternal love and want you to reply. I’ve had that happen to me a lot on MyOpera too, where I used to have a blog. Just don’t reply and ignore, and don’t feel bad; you’re probably not the only one getting those mails from her/me anyways.

Dr_Lawrence's avatar

I will be more cautious in the future. I was careful, but not enough, this time.

Rarebear's avatar

Scam. I’m willing to bet the write isn’t even a woman.

Dr_Lawrence's avatar

See’s still writing and I’m just deleting them.

Berserker's avatar

Can’t you block her address? I admit, this seems a little uncommon. Usually they send you one mail and that’s it, unless you reply, I guess.

Judi's avatar

Or tag her to your junk mail folder.

Arewethereyet's avatar

I’ve had emails from lonely russian women too, a number of them in fact. I just delete I know its a scam prob russian mafia or the like. She does sound persistent wonder what she’s up to. it might be fun to just watch but don’t reply.

And remember she is probably not a she, the photos wont be real and the emailer will be after something from you eventually.

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