Is my boss flirting with me?

Yep, he is flirting. Please don’t trade one married man for another. Put your foot down and tell him that his behavior is making you uncomfortable.

Trust me I have learned my lesson and I have no intentions of doing anything with him. Just was hoping I was over thinking it. I am slowly but surely getting over the other one. I have found someone who makes me happy.

He is starting to sexually harass you. That’s a strong term, but it is what he is doing, and since it is bothering you, it is worse. Even if you don’t mind it, it is wrong. Sexual harassment is illegal.

I don’t know what your workplace is like. If he is the top dog there, it is difficult, but you should ask him to stop bothering you. If he gets mad or says you’re overreacting, you may just have to go to an employment attorney to get him to stop.

If it is a large company, and he has a boss, and there is an HR department, complain to HR. They should handle it. If not, let them know that you will have to consider talking to an employment attorney.

Good luck!

You seem to have an obsession with married men, as you can see on your Other Question

If this boss, is a different guy from the married man that you are sleeping with, then what he is doing is considered sexual harassment, even if you like it. You should go to your HR representative and let them know what is going on. If you don’t report this now, and let him continue, you’ll probably end up sleeping with him too.

You can read about Sexual Harrassment in the Workplace

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I think you kind of like the attention, though

I’ve been close to several of my bosses (playful, joking, friendly), without it ever crossing over into anything inappropriate. Maybe he just genuinely likes you as a person. I think some of you are jumping to conclusions on the sexual harassment front.

All that said, in light of your other question and your history, tread carefully. Call a swift halt to anything that does cross a line, especially if you feel tempted by it.

The whole “Bonnie and Clyde” incident would have been cute, playful, and fun in a different context. But, this guy’s general affect and behavior had already set your Creep-o-Meter on high. No, you’re not overreacting. Please listen to your instincts. As long as you keep your job, you’ll continue to interact with this man. But, you can avoid any unnecessary interactions, and you can keep a cool, professional demeanor—be business-courteous, but give him no encouragement or hints of friendship.

You are not overthinking it. The next time he does something like say that he will walk with you, discourage him by saying. “No, Jim can do it. You are married.”

Untying your apron or other physical moves are out of line. Say, “I’m sorry, Mr. X, but your actions are making me uncomfortable.” and step away from within reach of him.

Hopefully, he will respond to this subtle, but definite message.

@marinelife Because only unmarried men should walk next to their employees? Heh.

If he is flirting and she is uncomfortable with his actions (neither of which I’m convinced of), she should tell him face to face that this is the case. Men aren’t particularly known for being taking subtle hints.

@livelaughlove21 Many women are intimidated by workplace actions of the boss. Also, perhaps he is not flirting with her. Perhaps he is just outgoing and thoughtless. These are ways she can test that out without going “too far.”

Nah. No. It sounds to me like he’s just trying to be a delightful boss.

So…..anyway…...what time do ya get off….??
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How come the Story Has Changed?

Is the guy married or not, is he your boss or not, are you cold?

Great Detective Work @Kardamom!