What is the reason and experience of obsessing over a person?

I don’t think it’s something that someone chooses. It’s more like they feel they can’t help themselves.

People obsess because they feel they can’t stop and also because obsessing feels good to them.

You see it most often in unstable or immature people. And adolescents for sure.

Something perhaps they wish they had within themselves. But mostly a personality problem. I would imagine though many experiencing new love do it a little or a lot.

One of my daughters is unstable and , when a man drops her, she obsesses over him and won’t stop calling him. I don’t think it’s that she loves him so much; it’s the rejection she can’t take. Then she calls me and starts whining over these guys and sounding so depressed. It’s as if she didn’t have loving parents who were always home or something worse.