My suggestion was made ONLY for the sake of your son,regardless of which adult is at fault for what.
If he makes more money then I suppose that, TECHNICALLY SPEAKING, you win that point but it’s a Pyrrhic victory at best.
Ultimately, your son is the one who pays the price for it (not in money but in lower self esteem and possible future emotional problems) from the lack of contact with and guidance from his father.
If it isn’t already, at some point in time, his internal dialogue will be something along the lines of: “well if my own father can’t be bothered to even talk to me, then how valuable a person can I be.”
In any divorce or separation situation the children are the LEAST HARMED if each parent can base any of their behaviors upon how much they love the child RATHER THAN UPON how much they despise each other.
I’m not saying the kid needs an expensive smart phone with unlimited access to everything. A simple cheap Trac-Fone, Virgin Mobile or any other one without a monthly plan would get the job done.
And you can make it clear to him that this phone is ONLY FOR calls with his father (or genuine emergencies) He can’t call or text all his friends or anywhere else. Period. And obviously you’ll know from the bill if he violates that.
And that’s no guarantee that his father will call as often as you’d want him to, but at least it removes as many barriers as possible.
It also leaves your son the option of calling his father (independently of you) to let him know how much he misses him or for advice or help.
As I said, this is for your son’s sake and has nothing to do with how selfish his father is.
Every child of divorce has to navigate the tricky waters of divided loyalties. They feel that if they act positively toward one parent that it’s a betrayal of the other. That’s a tremendously difficult thing for an eight year (or any age) to handle.
The more that can be done by either parent to relieve that burden for him, the more emotionally healthy and internally peaceful he can be.
Theres no question that divorce is sometimes necessary. And divorce is traumatic, but it’s guaranteed that the children of divorce are traumatized far more than either of the adults. Whatever can be done to mitigate that damage is a wise decision.
If you can be the bigger person in the (relatively inexpensive) issue of a simple CELLPHONE, your son will be the beneficiary. And it’s certainly less expensive than therapy bills later on.
But. If you’re more interested in a victory regardless of the cost to your son, there isn’t a whole lot more to say.
You win. You have every right to stsnd on principle since he makes so much more money than you. The father is a total cad. The evidence is conclusive.