Is he waiting for me to take initiative?
I gave him a card and present for his birthday. He kissed me on the cheek and corner of mouth ( accident?). Last night he ignored me at a function that our dance club was attending. I got fed up of waiting for him to ask me to dance so I asked him. We had a good dance and on the way off the dance floor he caught my hand and squeezed it.
I’ve known him a while and we have flirted. Last night I caught him staring at me and I held his gaze for a few seconds, he sat he where he could see me, with his legs apart.
Do you think he’s shy?
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it sounds like you have taken the initiative. It also sounds like he’s probably interested. Hard to know what to advise you; you can either wait for him to make a move since you have made several or go for broke and ask him if wants to do something together. But think about if you wnat to be with someone who is seemingly so passive.
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He may want an assertive woman to lead the way. Question is, is that what you want?
More to the point, as is the case with almost all these vague relationship questions, communication is key. In other words, don’t be afraid to have a conversation with the guy and ask him these questions.
Maybe he is shy and is waiting for you to take the initiative.
Ask him out to find out for sure.
It does sound like he’s shy. Take the initiative but keep it casual until you two can get the connection going. At some point you might need to sneak some overt “Hey, I like you!!!” type statements in there if he’s not getting the point. He still might not know how to reciprocate so be patient, but you might have to get to asking him “Do you like me, too?”
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Don’t talk to us – talk to him. All anyone here can do is make guesses, if you talk to him you can know for sure.
I’ll be seeing him at dance class on Wednesday. We do talk but since he kissed me he seems to have gone quiet, if you know what I mean.
There’s only one way to find out, although giving him a birthday card and gift is a pretty broad hint. His then ignoring you at the recent dance is not a good sign.
What does him having his legs apart signify?
Supposedly displaying his ‘wares’! It was at his birthday party I gave him the gift and I wasn’t the only one.
I think you should ask him out. If he danced with you and grabbed your hand there is something there. If you don’t ask him you may never find out. If he says no then you will have your answer. If he says yes then hopefully it will work out well for you. :)
If he is not shy then he is teasing you.
maybe he wants something more than what you may think?
Be carefull.
“Displaying his wares’!
Sexual teasing.
Take your time with this one.
And…the OP (questionable from the start)...has left the building.
@gailcalled Noticed that and posted it on her other thread.
^^^ It was your original observation that alerted me.
Things here do bear repeating, don’t you find?
Indeed…...I was waiting for her to ask if she could possibly be pregnant, thanks to his wares.
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