If one of your elderly parent had to move in with you how would your spouse react?

My parents are in their mid-forties, so they certainly aren’t elderly, but both my husband and I would be unhappy if they came to live with us. If it did happen, and I’m not sure either of us would let it, we’d just grin and bear it I suppose. In other words, only bitch about it when we’re alone. Hopefully that doesn’t ever happen, though.

We wouldn’t be too keen on the idea of anyone from our families moving in. We like being alone.

My husband is not perfect BUT he had my back when my mom moved in for three months, waiting for her new place to be ready. Tolerated it cheerfully, let’s say.

From past experience, I know that he is truly a blessing in that aspect, that he loves my mom. My ex’s wouldn’t have been nice about it, at least two of them anyway.

My fiancé is much more patient and generous than I; and it’s quite possible that he likes my mother more than I do.

Forget my spouse. I would not be able to stand it.

My spouse would welcome them with no reservations. He surprises me that way.

When my wife and I first married, we lived with my Mom to help her through the time after my fathers death. My wife and my Mom did not get along well. Just before my Mom died, my wife agreed to have her live with us (which didn’t happen). She knew it would be rough, but understood.

I moved in (stayed) with my Dad for a year after my Mom died. It didn’t bother me a bit. He needed the help.

We are both very supportive of each other and our family.

In fact, We would have my ailing brother with us right now if we could afford to move him from Texas to California.

My Daughter-in-laws disabled mother and elderly grandmother both live with them in the house we have bought for them.

My boyfriend would be very supportive. But he is just like that, he is kind, helpful and eager to help anyone he cares about. I reckon not all spouses are a saint like him. (My parents are deceased though).

If either my mother or his parents moved in with us, it would change our lifestyle, thus impacting the relationship. All three need assistance in their own way. Mom moving in is a non-starter. My partner lives in another country, and the family wouldn’t consider having her move in with us. I’d gladly take his parents (or parent if one dies), but we would look into other options first.

Since they are all long dead and gone, it is safe to say unequivocably yes!

Probably he would be ok and make the most of it, but he would complain once they were here. I would also at times. My dad would be much more difficult to deal with than my mom. But, my husband and I both would not dread our parents living with us. My husband tends to be more routinized than I am, so for him having more people to interfere with what he wants to get done is frustrating, for me not so much. I know he would quickly have his parents come here. When my aunt first became ill (I help pay her bills and some ither things) my husband immediately wondered out loud if she would be better off moving to our house. I don’t think he really thinks it through, he just has a strong sense of caring and obligation for family. I hate to use the word obligation, because it isn’t that he does it out of some sort of external pressure, more that it is just simple to him that of course you help your family, and he is a very empathetic person.

This happened to me, my mum was very sick and no longer safe at home, she had quite advanced Alzheimers so was in need of a lot of help. She had both psychological needs and some serious physical care needs as well. My husband was very supportive, agreed she needed to live with us, never once complained and did things for her that her own son would never do. She is now in care as her care needs ramped up to 24 hour requirements and he still visits her, takes her ice cream and choccies. Amazing. My children also pulled out thier best and care for thier grandmother. I wanted them to understand that’s what families do, they care for each other in good and bad times. My girls were amazing, they did things i never asked them to do such as personal hygiene and cleaning up after her. My brother on the other hand doesn’t come near her from one month to the next, now that’s sad.

If my mother had to move in with someone, she better start making friends.

That conversation would never happen between myself and my husband, as my mother is not welcome in my home. Period.

If my husband’s mother had to move back in with us, we would have to have a separate place for her to go, like a mother-in-law apartment. Mostly because she drives my husband bananas and has no sense of personal space or privacy. It’s not her fault, she has dementia and had part of her brain removed due to an aneurysm 25 years ago, but still, it’s hard to take sometimes.