What does it mean to humor a person in this context?

In its verb form, the word has nothing to do with being funny. To humor someone is to indulge or go along with them. People often say “just humor me” when they are asking someone to let them finish an explanation of something that might seem dubious or pointless (such as a particularly wild story or an inordinately long joke).

She caters to your needs, she goes along with your whims and desires even when she doesn’t totally agree.

@ZEPHYRA Ouchies. I guess she thinks I can’t handle the truth sometimes.

That they often are doing you a favor being with you. People tend to be brutally honest when they are upset, or drunk, or both. This is something to think about as you well know. Gonna be hard to reel that one back in, at least it would be if someone did that to me.

and you may have hit a raw nerve about her being psychotic because I’m guessing you are not the first person to inform her of that

@woodcutter or sometimes people get defensive when you accuse them of being something their not?

They will get defensive either way but possibly more so if you hit the nail on the head. Thats been my experience. She has been “tolerating you”. So that seems to me you have been rubbing her the wrong way for maybe a long time? But there are still redeeming qualities she’s willing to put up will in spite of that? But still that is harsh by most people’s standards. Seems a bit snippy to me to the point I might take it as some kind of warning but if you are just being you, then what the hell are you supposed to do?

@woodcutter It was harsh, but I figured she said that because she was upset, and didn’t really think much of it at the time. I would kinda get defensive if someone was trying to make me think I was insane, or if I made it a regular thing to mess with people’s heads. Cause these were the things I accused her of.

Well do you believe she is messing with you? Has she been gassing you?

@woodcutter I’ve said a couple of times that she says nice things, just because she’s my friend. And that we’ve been intimate in the past. Like I’d say, ” I’m not worthy of a great relationship, no one wants a fat ugly girl” Then she’d say “Well why would I have wanted to be with you if I thought you were ugly?”

I think you’re right…people wouldn’t get upset about shit like that, if it weren’t true.

She may be wanting you to handle your self image better for both of your sakes. I don’t think people are near as unattractive as they seem to think. Besides, physical appearances is but a piece of the deal. I’ve been married for 31 years and back in the day I really believed it would never happen because of stuff. I was skinny and dorky. Go figure.

@woodcutter or she’s just humoring me, and tolerating my bullshit.

maybe ya

Another point: people who are truly psychotic are unable to tolerate, humor, or empathize with others. Now, maybe she doesn’t know that. If she does, however, she may have simply been presenting a counterargument to your accusation.

@SavoirFaire She’s smart enough, so I do think she knows that.

Either she doesn’t understand what it means to humour someone, or she was just trying to lighten the mood by saying something funny.

@glacial I think @SavoirFaire got it right.

It means that she goes along with what you say even though she does not necessarily agree.

In light of this being an argument, I would not think too deeply on the words said. Emotions skew logic and memory can distort inflection.