How do I deal with a thuggish neighbour?

Speaking for myself personally, I would deal with it by trying to find some way to appreciate or ignore his singing, and just let it be. But then, other people’s noise doesn’t really bother me that much. I am wondering how bad the singing can be that you’re willing to physically fight him over it? This must be worse than the worst singing I have ever heard in my life.

@glacial hah you’re right I guess… I guess I got so wound up because I don’t meet such pig-headed people all that often. Besides, the man threatened me with violence if I didn’t leave him be. Who the hell does that?!

Noise complaint

Pump helium into his room. What high-ranking mafioso from Italy lives in a fucking hostel?

Did you try to register a complaint with the front desk? Is he violating a local noise ordinance?

Tell him you have web contacts who can make his life very difficult & can be on him like a bad suit at a moments notice…yes, it’s only us lot, but fluther packs a mean punch.

I can’t think of the word hostel without being creeped out. Thanks Hollywood. Is that a common term in the US? That’s where I am and I’d never even heard that word until the movies came out.

I’d ignore it or report it. I certainly wouldn’t go directly to him again. Your level of physical fitness really doesn’t matter if he has a weapon in his possession.

Yeah, I agree with ^^. If they have a weapon, it doesn’t matter on the size or condition. It’s three weeks, just ignore them as much as possible.

Definitely leave him alone. Consider moving to another place.

It is a sad commentary on the world but I say learn to live with it. We once had neighbours who had late, loud, boozy parties practically every Fri and Sat night. Loud enough that it was impossible to sleep even with windows closed and air con full blast. Have you ever noticed that the more people drink, the deafer they become??? Anyone we spoke to them once and also received veiled threats about our pretty doggies, who by the way are trained to not bark, so that was the end of that. We lived with it because I didn’t trust people who behaved like this and I didn’t want to find out if the threats were real or not.

@rooeytoo “Have you ever noticed that the more people drink, the deafer they become???”

Isn’t that the truth? It makes me wonder… if alcohol removes our inhibitions, does that mean we secretly wish we could be shouting all the time? What a bizarre world that would be.

I doubt he will do anything further to threaten you. Try to put it behind you. Or if it is worrying you too much find alternative accommodation. I’ve learned though, through difficult experiences it is always best to approach people in a none threatening way when asking them to change a personal behavior that is causing me distress. I once complained of a neighbors boyfriend hooting outside around 20 times a night while waiting for her to come downstairs. The hooting just escalated to 40 times.

Some people are strange that way, they do the opposite of what is asked. I would be mortified if I found out that I was making a noise that upset people. But we are all different.

He’s singing in the morning… (this doesn’t seem unusual to me) Perhaps you might want to relocate to the countryside next time around.

Earplugs or headphones and listen to your own music. The man sounds like trouble and you don’t need that. Life’s too short. It’s three weeks so put some earplugs in and get out of there as soon as you can.

Not sure what level of peace and privacy one can expect from hostel living. It’s kind of like asking the frat house to adopt library policies. I recommend spending more time at the library.

Problem solved itself. He knocked on my door yesterday and apologised for his behaviour. No more singing, and no grief from the neighbour. Makes me think if I’m really THAT intimidating, or what…

Maybe he just had shit going on and wasn’t handling it well. Glad he did that. Who knows, maybe you’ll be friends before you move out.

@fremen_warrior I’m glad to hear that. :)