Am I overreacting by being hurt by this?

You are telling me your parents were sick when you were younger and now they are no longer sick you resent them? That’s not right.

Get over yourself. Your parents were sick, they did what they could do.
Now is the time to get to know them and hang out with them.

@RockerChick14, were both your parents clinically depressed at the same time while you were growing up?

Parents are human. You are telling me your parents were depressed. That sucks. But everybody’s parents kinda suck at it.

You don’t get to be an adult without feeling like your parents slighted you somehow.

It sounds from your description that your parents know they screwed up, and are doing what they can to make it right. A lot of people never get that. I would call yourself really frieken lucky.

Acknowledging your hurt by this a good step to cognitive therapy.

However you have to realize bemoaning past missed percieved opportunites and not becoming who you are is ineffectual and pointless.

Perhaps you compensated by becoming resourceful and the ability to appreciate the small things or may be know how to entertain yourself body and mind in any circumstance.

Is it human and natural to resent, of course. But my advice don’t waste time dwelling on it. A quote that I found helpful: “If you are hurt by an event that happened to you when you were 12, it is the thought that is hurting you now.” James Hillman

Make the most of what time you have left. Maybe you will have a better appreciation of it. And honey we all have struggles and make mistakes.

Granting each other, especially our loved ones the ability to be imperfect and not reject them based on mistakes, is one of the best gifts you can give. And give everyday. I find it is also one one I am constantly receiving as well.

It’s hard to deal with depressed parents, I know. I had one (and I was one for a good while, too). Try to think of it as if it were any other illness, though, and be glad they are better now and want to make up for lost time. Things may never be completely okay between you, but they can be better. Resentment will only get in the way of that, though.

I’m sure they wish they’d been healthy and so been the parents they imagined they’d be and you wish they had been.

However, you have a world of opportunities open to you. You and your siblings, under your own steam, can do anything you want to do. So rather than resenting your parents for their health problems in the past see the positives of now being able to take charge of your own future.

You have your whole life ahead of you. Get after it, the past is the past everything is going to be fine.

Your feelings are your feelings and there isn’t really a right or wrong way to feel. But your actions are a choice.

If you need to spend a little time in therapy to sort this through that might not be a bad idea.

Now that your parents are no longer suffering from depression, you have the opportunity to get to really know them without a big black cloud over them ( metaphorically speaking).

Once they’re are in their graves, you can’t get this time back.

If they’ve never really apologized to you that may be what’s fueling your resentment and you should have a straightforward talk with them about it and let them know how you felt as a child.

Your siblings may decide to hang onto their grudge but your relationship with your parents is your own and you don’t have to do the same.

Basically the choice of how to react in the future rather than the past is yours to make.

But what good would it do to keep holding a grudge. Would it benefit you in any way? Its your choice.youre older now now. You’re no longer the hurt child wondering why your parents don’t have time to do fun things with you.

You have a more mature understanding of how debilitating untreated depression can be. As a kid you didn’t realize that. Try to find some room for compassion and understanding.

Just think about those guys who are wrongly sent to prison for 15 or 20 years and are cleared of the crime and are released. They might be bitter to an extent but overall they are tickled at the chance to make up for lost time.

You learned a lot more than you think. Believe it or not you are better prepared to face the world than many.
Now is your chance to do things with them.

A few periods and commas would make this run-on sentence a whole lot easier to read.

It’s not as if you’re too old to do things with your parents now. Why not enjoy them as much as you can now instead of complaining about your childhood. That’s in the past, so get over it and move on with your life.

I can relate a little to this. My mum was very mentally ill throughout my childhood and so some off her decisions affected my brother and I very negatively (she starved herself, lied a lot and was often absent). For a very long time she rejected help and so, after a while, I lost sympathy (to a certain extent) and there were times, especially in my teen years, that I resented her. I couldn’t help it. I saw other people with normal mums (although I now know that looks can be deceiving) and longed for that myself. During the years that I needed her the most, she was very absent because of her illness. Now I am in my mid (late!) twenties mum is in a better mind set and we have a fairly decent relationship but I would be lying if I said that it wasn’t affected for the worse by her illness. For your own sake you need to let this go and accept that they are human and they probably didn’t mean for their problems to affect you in this way. As others have said, there is still time for you to build on the relationship with your parents and I urge you to do so. I have found that, since I accepted that my mum was so controlled by her illness that she couldn’t have been a better parent at that time even if she tried, I have felt much more at ease being with her. I hope it all works out well for you and your family.

I’m with @LuckyGuy on this one. Independence is such a great tool as an adult, that even though my mom’s bi-polar and depression were difficult, I matured early, moved out early, and worked earlier than any of my peers. It gave me a head start on adult confidence that has never failed me.

Every negative has a positive. Treasure your parents, someday you won’t have them around.

My parents did not have any spare money for even the bascis.
We grew up poor and not looked after very well.
But that was in the past and I had turned the page onto my own life.
Go to the next chapter in your life.
You NOW can do ALL the things that YOU wanted to do.
So do it !
With or without them!

@KNOWITALL Same here!