NSFW: If a girl did this and it felt amazing, would you consider making her your girlfriend?

This question makes me really sad.

No…No…No… All a girl would be achieving is putting herself in a position to be taken advantage of and get absolutely nothing from it. Other then the possible enjoyment of giving the blowjob.

@rosehips That.

I don’t know a whole lot about relationships, but I know enough that a sexual favor, good or bad, is not grounds for a decent and healthy relationship. What the fuck, man? :(

Sorry kiddo, you’re out of luck. If you did that during a relationship it would probably help, but outside, you are just being used.

If I were single and I had this favourable sexual experience, the most I could say is that if I liked this woman for other reasons, I would certainly see how I felt about a potential relationship after spending time with her in all kinds of non sexual contexts. It takes more than being a great sexual partner to be someone with whom I would want to form a long term relationship.

One disappointing sexual experience would also not exclude the possibility of forming a great long term relationship.

Nah, i’m not swallowing that, the ability to suck a golf ball up a hosepipe does not a relationship make…obviously.

If that was all, I would only consider her as a long term blow job partner. I had that same situation with a woman I met right after my marriage fell apart. The third time we were together, I took her to my place, and she initiated sex and gave incredible head. But she had way too many issues in her life, a relationship with her was not going to work.

I think This Youtube video is extremely relevant and provides at least one mans take on your question.

@Valenzcia18 look, if you really want to have a relationship with the guy you are posting endlessly about, talk to him, don’t fellate him.

Well, men don’t choose the relationship they get chosen by the female. If a woman makes a man feel happy, respected and fulfilled he’ll likely stick around. B.J. or not. It’ll help though, but only AFTER the three precursors, NOT before.

Never base your relationship on sexuality, or gauge your relationship on something as facetious and simple as sex.

Great sex or just sex is like a good grilled steak. It is phenomenal to have, but it ISN’T necessary to survive or even have an enjoyable and satisfying life.

I love LOVE sex. I am a handsome, educated and well spoken man. However, I became a Christian and took a vow of celibacy until I marry, if I marry again.

I never been happier. Find someone who wants you for you young lady. Someone who would love or want you even if you became paralyzed or incapable of intercourse. Someone who couldn’t breathe without your smile and the ability to look into your eyes.

@carob_tree I just came off a six months of self imposed celibacy… While there may have benefits I couldn’t exactly tell you for sure what they were or if I couldn’t have gotten them from something else.

Sex is beyond great it is essential for good health. You don’t have to deny a future partner something because you don’t want your relationship grounded in it. Just don’t ground your relationship in it. Also choose wisely. Self denial is only good when the judgement involved behind it is good.

@unbroken

6 months? Please. 6 months isn’t long enough to see anything and you as a result aren’t qualified to speak candidly albeit dogmatically on the topic.

Also, I never denied that sex is healthy. However, Ray Charles could see that a life not convoluted by the need to get or pursue sex as a false prerequisite of love or a substantiated relationship has merit.

I’ve been celibate for years. My thought processes are clear, I’m not distracted. After the first 2 years, I ceased my regular 6 month testing with my primary physician. Women I’ve dated and date know my intentions are good. They also know I cannot be manipulated that way if they were so inclined to do so.

Their are more. Suffice it to say the greatest benefit is the one that comes when I silence my vow and reenter the world of the ugly bumpers.