Have you ever been understood?

I have only a few times and it made me very happy. Although since those people aren’t part of my life, I don’t feel it much right this second.

Yeah sure, but it’s good to leave a bit of mystery too…part of me stays inside because it’s mine see.

Perhaps I’ve been “gotten” in the past, but honestly, I don’t know or can’t recall. Happily, I don’t think in those terms anymore. I do know that how I think and feel and how I’m perceived are very different, and no longer do I expect or even hope that someone will see me as I do.

I don’t know about understood… but I feel accepted and loved by my husband. I feel like I could tell him anything and he would roll with it.

When my son found out that he had been conceived as the result of rape, I felt very close to him. I think he understood some of me that he hadn’t… and some of my parenting and emotional quirks (?) made sense to him.

It’s a great question. I think you have to let yourself be very vulnerable to the right people, and that takes some intuition and a lot of bravery. I don’t think you can feel understood without exposing yourself.

I’ve felt it a few times and I’ve always felt that I ‘got’ the other person in the same way. It’s a nice feeling.

I had a buddy in college who was on the same wavelength.
We did all kinds of fun things together and always understood each other’s eccentric jokes.
Man, did we have fun!
We’re still friends but we now live on opposite coasts of the U.S.

I get this sense of being understood from my husband. He seems to ‘get me’. Which is nice.

“Have you ever been understood?”

I understand myself just fine.

I’ve been thinking about this question and am moved to say I still think I’ve never been really understood (is anyone?) but I’m absolutely certain I’ve been misunderstood.

Sorry, but I don’t understand the question. Could you be a bit more specific?

I don’t think so. I don’t think I’ve ever exposed myself fully to any one person for the reason @ucme mentioned. A couple of people in my life ‘get me’ in a manner of speaking, I suppose.

I have a handful of friends who get me in certain aspects, and one who pretty much just understands and never judges.

It’s pretty cool to have someone who can see the warts and like you anyway, especially when it’s entirely reciprocal.

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Sure, but not completely. And that’s fine. As @ucme points out, it’s good to keep a little of yourself to yourself.

Yes, completely. I have s special person that gets me totally. It’s a scary thing to let someone that far in, but it’s worth it when you trust the other person totally.

Yes and it’s a great feeling to share that with someone, a friend, a colleague, a spouse or a relative.

The first time I ever felt like someone really just got me was my best friend.
I could relate to people who grew up with abusive parents, and sometimes missed their siblings. But Asher and I went through that together. When he died I was left with a phantom limb of our shared childhood. I never thought anyone would ever be able to see through me like that again. I thought I would always have to use words to communicate. Until recently, when I met someone.
The broken bond with the broken.

My wife is the only human that has totally understood me most of the time. We are true kindred souls.

My Mother and two older Sisters never had a clue who I am.

I have adequate communication with my friends and coworkers but they aren’t interested in who I am.

My two cats worship all aspects of who I am and they absolutely get me.

There are some people that have understood me, and that currently do, or at least, I base this on how much I actually understand myself. But people don’t have to completely understand you to not judge you and just enjoy you for who you are. I also cherish and appreciate this very much. My list of trustables is actually longer than I let on. :D

No, not profoundly. I have a sceptic inside of me that doubts human beings can ever really profoundly understand each other, but I will not deny the possibility and I hope they can.

My fiancé and I are definitely on the same wavelength. We all have our quirks, so I don’t think that anyone can be completely simpatico with someone else… but as long as I know tat he loves and accepts even the quirky aspects of me, I feel understood.