If a bisexual man ends up marrying a woman are they still considered bisexual?

Yes. Who you marry has nothing to do with sexual preference. Gay men and women frequently marry the opposite sex, for example. Marriage is just on papers, nothing more. After marriage, that person will still be attracted to both sexes, he has just ultimately chosen to settle down with a person of the opposite sex.

If a man is married to a woman most people would probably consider him heterosexual even if he is bisexual. You wouldn’t call someone an adulterer who just thinks about having affairs.

Attraction still occurs after marriage, even if it’s never acted upon. That man would still be sexually attracted to other men, and that’s something his wife would have to come to terms with. Our sexual minds don’t die off when we sign a marriage license. That’s like saying heterosexual men are never attracted to other women after they marry one. Not true. He can look – it’s touching that’s the problem.

Yes. Just as a heterosexual is still heterosexual after marrying. They would still be attracted to whomever they would normally be attracted to, whether they act on the attraction or not.

If he still identifies as bisexual then yes. I would just believe whatever the person tells me about himself.

@JLeslie nails it on the head, it is all about how the fellow self-identifies.
He may be a practicing heterosexual, but be attracted to both genders.

Of course.

Certainly. It is his orientation not his relationship that is involved. The women may or may not be bisexual. You did not say.

And people who are not familiar with bisexuals confuse attraction with promiscuity. A married bisexual person does not have sex at anytime with any person willing to hop in the sack, any more than the average straight or gay married person. Each person’s philandering is a statement on their commitment to a marriage or a partnership, not to a particular orientation.

And a bisexual person who is committed to a same sex partner doesn’t get a pass on having sex with an opposite sex acquaintance.

Yes. Sexual orientation is about attraction. If the man in question is still attracted to both men and women, then he is still bisexual, the same way that a heterosexual person in a sexless marriage is still heterosexual (and not asexual). Their desires are unchanged, even if their activities have become limited.

Here in the Bible Belt, that man would be considered heterosexual after marriage.

@KNOWITALL That’s why the DSM V was published last Saturday, because the Bible has its opinions, but they haven’t been updated in a long time.

@zenvelo I actually meant in people’s minds. If a man was married to a woman, he’s normal, regardless of what they do in the bedroom or outside the home.

I’ve heard several churches invite LGBT’s and try to pray them straight or save them from their sin (of being gay), then they’re acceptable to join the church, if it ‘takes’. It’s crazy to me but it’s true.

@KNOWITALL Really? No matter what he does in the bedroom or outside the home? So if the couple invites a man to join them in bed and the husband has sex with that man, he’s still completely heterosexual? Or if the husband picks up men once a week for a little one-on-one sex, he’s still completely heterosexual? I guess that explains Mark Foley, Ted Haggard, Larry Craig, Bob Allen…

@SavoirFaire Yeah really as long as it’s on the DOWN LOW, everyone would rather choose to believe your overnight guest is a relative from out of town, than believe their neighbor’s a homosexual or anything ‘abnormal’ (to them.)

There’s a lot of suppression here for anyone not hetero, so unfortunately we lose a lot of really great people to more liberated areas of the country. One of my friends is gay and was married with two children for most of his life and a contractor.

it’s a difficult transition to come out in this male-dominated area, where women aren’t even treated equally still. Religious mores still hold the hetero white male as the top of the chain.

I live in the Bible Belt and I think most people I know would say this guy is bisexual either way. That is, unless they say he’s actually gay because “bisexuality isn’t real.” I think most Southern folks these days think that once a man takes it up the butt, he’s gay from there on out.

Someone might be hanging out at church too often.

@livelaughlove21 I can’t believe you said THAT ^, but that IS the way a lot of people feel.

And if you meant me hanging out at church, you couldn’t be further from the truth…lol

@KNOWITALL What was it I said that was so hard for you to believe?

What you said sounds like the views of little old Christian women that attend church 3+ times a week and have never even met a gay person. The kind of women that think “fart” is a bad word. Southern people are out of touch, but most are not that out of touch. If the majority truly feel this way where you are, I’d love to know which state this is so I know where to never visit.

“once a man takes it up the butt, he’s gay from there on out”

Um, that’s what I was trying to sound like because that’s how our elderly/ christian people are here in my area of rural Missouri, they deny reality because it’s too uncomfortable. Of course those of us younger debate the SSM and LGBT issue all the time because the reality of loving they neighbor as thyself doesn’t always seem to apply to people that don’t fit the mold.

We are NOT the home of Duck Dynasty or Honey Boo Boo or Moonshiners at ALL, but some parts of our state are not all citified yet either. :)

@KNOWITALL I didn’t say I agreed with that viewpoint, but that seems to be the general consensus with straight Southern males.

I guess we in South Carolina are a bit different from y’all in Missouri. We don’t sweep anything under the rug. We like to gossip about it instead.

@livelaughlove21 I was just shocked to see it here for some reason, but our redneck boys are pretty much the same way. Peace, I hear the mountains are beautiful and hope to visit someday.

@KNOWITALL That’s really fascinating. It’s not at all the same here in Virginia (or in South Carolina, apparently, given what @livelaughlove21 has said). I wonder what accounts for the difference? Maybe someone will have a theory.

@SavoirFaire My theory is that the more rural you get, the further back in time you get.

@livelaughlove21 I’d have to agree.

It seems that bisexuals have the widest choice on whom to date. Marrying a woman doesn’t change them to straight and marrying a man doesn’t make them gay. I don’t know if bisexuals are programmed for a wide range of partners in the way gay people are programmed to prefer their own sex.

Anyway if you draw a chart from gay to homosexual I am certain that you could find people that feel in that range even if you break it into hundreds of points. I am also certain that it is none of my business to judge any of them.

I just re-read my above comment and see that I have made a glaring mistake. It should have read ”...draw a chart from straight to homosexual…”