Is it just me, or does life always seem to work out this way (see details)?

You’ve discovered the secret to life. Let it come to you and all things are possible. Try to force it and it’s like trying to push a rope uphill.

Yes, often true! The unposed, unprepared photo is often the best because it is natural. And we often find love when we are looking for something else.

The lesson I have learned is to follow my bliss as best I can, and be open and grateful for all the blessings that arrive.

It’s called Murphy’s Law.

When I was in school I always got better grades on the papers I threw together a night or two before they were due than I did on papers Iabored over all semester.

It’s like the boy scouts motto, ” be prepared” shelve that shite…spontaneity, that’s the way to go.

I think all my favorite photo’s are the unscripted, naturally composed variety. They just seem to have more life to them.

And yes, I think that many times things come easier to us when we do not force them.
There was a book called “Drawing on the Right Side of the Brain” in which the author, Betty Edwards talks about how the dominant, logical left side of the brain tries to run everything. She gives an example of trying to draw a chair where the left side basically says that it knows what a chair looks like, so you do not need to look at it in detail. What you get a drawing not of what you see but your logical brain sides interpretation of what a chair is.
In her example to get around this controlling nature you do not draw the chair but the spaces in, around and between the chair because the left side cannot relate to something that is not concrete and nameable and will allow the more creative right side to do the work. What you end up with is a drawing of what you see, not what you think you should be seeing.

If you are living your life rather than just waiting around for it to happen, you will be much better off.

Yes, the same thing goes with job hunting, with worrying over something that never happens while when I feel relaxed about something, suddenly the shit hits the fan! Life definitely works at odds!

I’d say yes, but all of the successful over-achievers debunk your conclusion.

@Mariah – my experiences match yours.. I found my husband when I was not looking (nearly engaged to another guy…with the same name!)..got offered my dream job (and almost turned it down!) when I wasn’t looking for a change…

I guess you have to work at things and hope for the best..and then be thrilled when good things fall in your lap..

I agree, especially with music. A lot of times, I can’t sit down at my piano and create a song just like that. For me, the song has to come to me and make me sit down at the piano.

This is what the Chinese call wu wei, losing awareness of the self and letting things happen naturally.

@bookish1 Not really. Murphy’s Law states, “anything that can go wrong, will go wrong.” This is more like, “the best things come to those who wait” or “the best things come when you least expect them.” Those last two don’t really fit Murphy, unless there’s a variation I’m not aware of. The spending hours on make-up and hair to get a crappy photo, I suppose, could be considered a Murphy’s Law situation, but that’s not the phenomenon the OP is asking about.

@livelaughlove21 : You got me. I misunderstood the OP.