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(ΠSҒШ) Could you have sex with someone who is ugly?

Asked by cheebdragon (20596points) May 25th, 2013 from iPhone

Please don’t think I’m shallow, that was only a short version of the actual question which is:
Could you have sex with someone physically ugly, without having any real feelings for that person? I know that beauty isn’t everything and who they are on the inside is more important, but those are feelings. So pretend you don’t find their personality attractive, maybe they are a bad person, or just a complete stranger who is very unattractive, could you have sex with them with them, NSA?

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Imadethisupwithnoforethought's avatar

Yes. My ex-wife let herself go in spectacular ways and I took one for the team.

In addition, I remember a time in high school. An extremely pretty ex of mine plied me with liquor and did a strip tease for me way after we broke up. The whole thing seemed extremely out of character for her. Finally I said, “Ok, what is going on?” and she said, “You know my friend ‘x’? Nobody will sleep with her because she has MS and is not very cute. Do me a favor…”

Bellatrix's avatar

If they had an unattractive personality or were a bad person or I had no feelings for them at all, no. Not because they’re ugly, but because I don’t like them as a person. Someone can be gorgeous on the outside, but if they’re a horrible person I wouldn’t want to, and don’t think I could, have sex with them. I doubt I would even find them arousing.

Sunny2's avatar

As long as you care enough for them to make love, you can just shut shut your eyes and enjoy.

bossob's avatar

Are you referring to ‘two-baggers’?

Or ‘coyote ugly’?

lol

Yes, as an older teen and young adult male, I had no standards-sex was sex-just a body for sex.

I’m glad I finally grew up, and developed some respect for myself and my partners. It’s been much more satisfying.

pleiades's avatar

I believe 95% of men, upon consuming a heavy amount of alcohol, would handle a “butter-face” if it fell on their lap.

:x :x :x

bossob's avatar

ACK! thanks, I couldn’t remember ‘butter-face’!

jca's avatar

There are a bunch of unattractive men that I can think of right off the bat who I cannot imagine myself having sex with, so I guess my answer would be “no.”

Bellatrix's avatar

What is ‘butter-face’?

bossob's avatar

She’s got a great body, but her face…

augustlan's avatar

Sure. I’ve been known to throw the odd pity-fuck out there. ;)

Bellatrix's avatar

@augustlan, to have a pity-fuck, wouldn’t you need to care about them to some extent? So you would have an emotional attachment at some level to the person?

augustlan's avatar

@Bellatrix Not a personal emotional attachment, necessarily. More like the compassion I’d feel for anyone who is suffering in some way. If I have the power to alleviate their suffering, I’m inclined to do it. I guess this was my personal style of charity.

bossob's avatar

C’mon @augustlan, admit that you just wanted some sex! Calling it a pity-fuck is just a CYA tactic in case any of your friends found out about it! ;)

augustlan's avatar

Maybe. :p

sujenk7422's avatar

I couldn’t have sex with anyone that I didn’t love and care for. Sex is what animals do to relieve an urge. With the STD’s out there now, a person would be better off servicing themselves! As far as feeling sorry for someone who is not so attractive, my pity would only include advice on improving their looks. Sex can be a powerful tool and can hurt someone very deeply when used in this way!

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