NSFW Do you talk during sex?

Not normal, but long before I met my wife, I had a lover that did, and it was HOT.

Not like…constant chatter, but we’ll talk a bit. I feel it would be weird if it was just silent. But that’s just my relationship.

I think the focus isn’t where it needs to be if you’re talking about anything other than the sex?

It depends. During purposeful baby-making sex, my ex-husband and I talked in loving ways to each other. It was very tender and gentle.

During hot and heavy sex, I’m much more likely to growl.

Ummm no. I don’t mind some playful, sex talk. I really don’t want to hear about his work or that we need to pay the rates bill or other minutiae.

No talking during sex about not sex is a waste a moodkiller and can be handled later.

I will sometimes verbally tease in a manner which is not necessarily sex talk. But not in manner in which my partner is sensitive too or can be hurtful but sweet or sassy.

Talking dirty about sex, I do. Talking about mundane things would kill the mood for me.

I did tell her to wake up one time, cheeky bitch fell asleep half way through…I knew it was 50% over because my balls were slapping off her arse by now :D

Aside from his occasional “oh, fuck,” we don’t talk much at all. Dirty talk feels stupid to me
(‘oh yeah, big boy, fuck me harder’) and borderline cheesy, and I don’t feel the need to talk. As for “silence is awkward” – if your sex is dead silent, you’re doing it wrong.

I don’t even know how I’d react if my husband started talking to me about his day mid-thrust. I’d probably laugh. Yeah, it would kill the mood. That’s what post-coital pillow talk is for.

It’s been so long I don’t remember having sex, much less anything else I was doing during it. ;-)

I can’t imagine hot and heavy sex and talking about mundane things like work at the same time.

I will some times talk, but only for comedy value. You can’t beat the look of confusion on someones face that you get when you anally penetrate them, and right after say “So, this is some crazy weather we are having” or something like that.

I will also some times ask my girlfriend a question during sex, just to see if she is still “in the room”, as some times her facial expressions lead me to believe that she is not even aware of what is happening anymore.

Having said that, while I will occasional talk, I am mostly silent. I don’t even really moan or make sex noises. I think this is mainly because I am a fucked up pervert, and I enjoy sex in my mind more than I do with my body. I also think it probably has something to do with trying to masturbate in silence as a kid behind closed doors without getting caught, I have evolved in to being a stealth-fucker.

However, I am normally much more talkative, if it is not sex, but just something sexual. For example, if my girlfriend is blowing me while I play minecraft, I will talk a lot more, mainly about the game, and will even stop her for a moment some times to show her what I have just built or created or something else in the game.

If it is the other way round, and I am the one providing the fun while she watches a movie or something, then neither of us tend to talk at all, unless she is watching something stupid, then maybe I will stop a moment to criticize the show or something stupid that has been said.

The time that there is most talk, is if we are playing some kind of fucked up game or taking part in some strange act, then there is a lot of talking on both sides, but only about the activity we are doing at the time. But during actual intercourse, there is no talk for the most part.

With role play you have to talk? Right?

To whom?

I follow no rules. Whatever seems appropriate (or sometimes, just for the hell of it, whatever seems in-appropriate) ... and conducive to relaxing her, making her laugh (without tickling, as a rule, since that’s just not fair play) or distracting her if that’s what she wants or what the situation calls for. It can be funny as hell, and take her by surprise in a good way, to be talking about not-sex while I’m busy seducing her… and she’s not sure which way we’ll end up going. (Sometimes, neither am I.)

“Sex” can last a long, long time and take hours of foreplay if it’s done right. I recall some great foreplay that consisted of talking about books (nominally, at least) in a Barnes & Noble bookstore, and another time while walking through Home Depot looking for objects we could turn into sex toys for later. You’d be surprised.

My boyfriend and I often have long bed sessions where we have sex, chat and laugh about everything and then have more sex. We don’t usually talk much during intercourse but we will often stop for a break and have in depth conversations about pretty much anything. I love those moments.

Gotta talk. Hard to give instructions using hand signal. :)

I don’t go in for deep philosophical discussions during sex but verbal feedback, suggestions or inquiries can be helpful and condusive to greater satisfaction. Sex is after all a social activity.

There was this one time? In Band Camp?

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