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NSFW: How vocal are you?

Asked by livelaughlove21 (15724points) May 26th, 2013 from iPhone

A recent answer on the talking-during-sex thread inspired this question.

Are you vocal during sex?

If so, in what way? Moaning, groaning, talking, screaming, panting, whispering, directing? How loud do you tend you get? Are you vocal because you can’t control it? Is it for the benefit of your partner? Is it to fill the silence?

If not, why do you think that is?

Be sure to mention your gender, as I suspect men are generally quieter than women for some reason. Feel free to speculate on that as well.

BQ: Do you prefer your partner to be vocal or quiet during sex? Are you impartial? Or does it depend on the situation? What type of noise do you like best?

I’ll chime in later…

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11 Answers

bookish1's avatar

I guess it depends on who I’m with, and what the dynamic is. If I am taking a submissive role, I tend to be more vocal, whereas if I am more in charge, I don’t vocalize much except to give directions ;)

I love hearing my partner moan when they come, and knowing that I’m responsible.

ucme's avatar

Fairly so, the typical bloke grunts & groans of delight, the wife is more vocal though, quite melodic in fact.

jca's avatar

Mainly moaning, groaning, and sex talk, for encouragement and to show how much I like what’s going on. Not loud.

I am a heterosexual female.

Headhurts's avatar

I’m female. Very vocal as in moaning. I do it because of what he is doing. Sometimes he even asks me to be quiet ( so he doesn’t finish so early) and thats a hard thing to do. He is also quite vocal but in a sex talk way. He likes to say that its good and how he wants me to be etc.

LuckyGuy's avatar

I like to receive and give positive feedback. I am not a mind reader.

Bellatrix's avatar

Female and I’m rather vocal (moaning and groaning) but not too loud (according to my partner). No screaming (that I can remember) and the noise is a reaction to the pleasure of the activity. Some directions on occasions but not overly. My husband is much quieter.

OpryLeigh's avatar

I’m a moaner. I use moans to let my boyfriend know what is working for me. My boyfriend is quite quiet during really intimate moments and I wish he would sometimes be a bit more vocal so I can be sure that what I am doing is working for him.

livelaughlove21's avatar

I guess now is a good time to put my two cents in.

I’m not a big moaner or groaner. I will pant with a moan or two here and there, but you won’t catch me shaking the bedroom walls with my screams. I think loud screaming and moaning is almost always exaggerated and somewhat pornographic, which I find cheesy and annoying. This is partly why I don’t watch porn tht involves women. “Oh yeah big boy, fuck me harder with your huge cock!” does nothing for me. :)

My husband groans and grunts and I’ll hear an occasional “oh, fuck.” I’m glad he’s not silent, because I’d absolutely hate that. I can’t stand when men stay quiet the whole time – where’s the fun in that? Talk about boring.

mazingerz88's avatar

Very vocal. I love to complain about the price. :)

Sunny2's avatar

I can sing a D below middle C and up to an F above high C. I’ve never figured out how that affects the noises I make during sex. It isn’t a tuneful sound.

Unbroken's avatar

I have ranged from whimper to panter to moaner to occasional screamer to measured breather.. I have talked dirty on occasion. I can issue demands or instruction, or beg and plead. I have no dignity but a lot of fun.

Most partners I have been with were not vocal. A few enjoyed dirty talk a few moaners. Occasionally you will get an expression of sound that is almost pulled out them as they release and that I try to reach that goal often. Though sometimes there are males that go overboard as it sounded campy and put on.

I like feedback and expressive partners. But I want and need it to feel and sound natural. I think men so often fail at this because they don’t experiment or play it with it the way women do. They also might spend a lot of time listening to us.

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