(N.S.F.W) Can you explain this experience?

Of course it hurts. It’s a penis going in your asshole. I’m sure it gets less painful the more you do it, and some women claim it’s pleasurable, but I don’t see how unless they enjoy some pain pain. Anal sex is pleasurable to men because the prostate is as close to a g-spot a man can get. It’s possible for a man to orgasm via prostate stimulation alone. Women have no prostate. I personally have no interest in anal sex – I have a vagina and a mouth, there’s no need for a third hole to be penetrated.

The best advice I can give is to not push a woman to do it, ensure she prepares beforehand, and use plenty of lube.

Women do have a prostate

I’ve not had all that many partners in my lifetime, but only a few really liked anal and asked for it. Before birth control, anal sex was a way of being sexual while avoiding pregnancy. In those times, I would guess that more women got used to it and learned to take pleasure in it.

Women can enjoy anal for some of the same reasons gay men do. It stimulates the muscles of the pelvic floor and these are the muscles directly involved in orgasm for males and for females. I think what @woodcutter is referring to as a female prostate is the G Spot. Anal sex can apply pressure to that as well. But most women who really want to enjoy anal either stimulate their clitoris while being penetrated or have their partner do it. For both males and females, having the stimulation to the pubococcygeus muscle when it starts spasming during orgasm can turn an ordinary cum into a truly mind blowing experience.

Men like doing it because it’s really tight, and the friction feels great. Lots of us also find a woman’s posterior really attractive, so maybe we fixate on being a backdoor man.

@livelaughlove21 Is right about plenty of lube. Also, let the woman totally control penetration. There are inner and outer sphincter muscles that need to slowly be stretched and only the owner of those muscles knows when they are relaxed enough to easily accommodate the girth of a cock. If you ram in before she is ready, the pain can be excruciating. She should push out like she’s trying to have a bowel movement, and slowly press herself against her partner’s erection until it slides all the way in to its hilt. Even then, let her signal when she is ready for thrusting. Done that way, it can be quite a thrill.

@woodcutter No, women have skene’s glands, which are similar to the male prostate gland but, at least sexually speaking, the two are not the same. Anal sex does not stimulate skenes glands, resulting in pleasure. And it’s certainly not called a “prostate.” Women don’t get prostate exams or prostate cancer – ergo, no prostate.

Does your penis smell bad afterwards? Will her anus bleed and would the male penis also get bruised?

@Eggie Your penis was just in someone’s ass so, yeah, it has the potential to smell like her ass afterward. This is why preparing beforehand and good hygiene is so important. Regardless, it’s nothing a shower won’t solve. She will only bleed if you are too rough or don’t use enough lube and you rip something. It shouldn’t bleed if you do it right. I haven’t heard of bruising of the penis caused by anal sex.

the male penis

…as opposed to the female penis?

Prep with enema or make sure the woman went to the bathroom before hand.

Start slowly with your finger and lots of foreplay. It helps if the woman is really turned on. Make sure there’s lots of lube handy and don’t hesitate to keep putting lube on your finger and penis. Done right, anal is great. Done wrong, anal is torture.

@Eggie I should have thought to mention it, but you can get a dildo about the size you are, and try it on yourself while you masturbate. For guys who aren’t too hung up about machismo to let themselves enjoy it, getting pegged can make their orgasm spectacular. It’s also great sensitivity training on how it feels on entry, how slow you need to go to get in and get comfortable, and what feels good once your body has adjusted to the intruder.

@ETpro I think not dude…..

@Eggie Even better. Don’t go for the overly anthropomorphic dildoes with veins and flanges around the penis head They may look incredibly authentic, but the material they are made of is generally far less pliant than natural flesh, even when fully erect. They can feel like an inserted rat-tail file.

Select a dildo that’s about the size of guys you’d imagine accepting back there. If you are turned off by scatological aspect of what might come out on the dildo, then take a good, 2 quart warm enema the night before the play and eat lightly, or not at all. Follow the other steps mentioned for both genders. Learn what feels good and how to take control of penetration so it’s never done too fast. This goes for women wanting to let a top have the delight of their rear door, and equally well for tops themselves, who need to know what delights, and what devastates.

@ETpro No way man..but thanks anyway

Silly boys. So quick to shove it up a girl’s ass, but so unwilling to take one up their own. Tsk tsk…

Real men can handle a little somethin’ somethin’ in their ass from time to time. ;)

@Eggie I think @livelaughlove21 has it right. “If you can’t stand the heat, get out of the kitchen.” as Give-em-Hell Harry Truman famously said.

@ETpro If only I could convince my husband. I’ve been trying to get in that ass for almost 6 years.

Hey…lets not get extreme….nothing is ever going up my anus!!!

@livelaughlove21 Unless reading this thread convinces him, I can’t help you with that one.

@Eggie Then why are you so interested in putting things up someone else’s anus? Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. And it’s really your loss. Things just as big come out of your anus every day, assuming you’re regular. So it’s no great pain to accommodate the girth of the average “thing” once you learn how to. And it can lead to a mindblowing orgasm for a male or female.

@ETpro I would really pass on that one.

I love the machismo of it all.
” No mannnn I’m a dude, I can’t put something up there…..that would like make me gay or something.,,,yeaaa fuck that.”

@Eggie Like I say, your loss is my gain. I’m super cool with that.

@uberbatman Don’t keep egging him on, he might listen. Then his loss would evaporate, and with it out gain.

@ETpro Neverrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!

@Eggie Ha! Good going. You stick to your guns. See if you can convince all the guys you know to swear the same oath? :-)

Dont know about other guys but I just know about me.

Here is a good crash course. Everything he writes about the mechanics of the thing applies, in this case, to women as well.

For more advanced reading, I recommend this. It is an excellent and very helpful book – though it is best used as a personal guide. You really ought to consider anal penetration for yourself if you want your lady friend to do it for you. Morin sums up his book here.

The main point: go really, really, really slowly.

@livelaughlove21 Anal does not hurt if done correctly.

@wildpotato…did I say it did?

And I beg to differ. I’ve never spoken to a single person that took a dick up their ass with no pain, specifically the first time. I’m sure the pain isn’t always present, but penis + tiny hole is going to pinch a little.

@livelaughlove21 You said it hurts in the first sentence of your first response on this thread. As to your second point, all those people did it wrong. Try the first and third link I provide above. Also, now you have spoken to a person who enjoyed anal intercourse without pain the first time – me. And with a guy who is well endowed.

@wildpotato Indeed I did. Sorry, this thread is old and I forgot that I responded first. I was only looking at my conversation with @ETpro.

And there’s really nothing new to me in those links. Use lube, prepare with fingers and toys, etc. I’m pretty sure that’s well-known information to anyone even remotely interested in anal sex. Even with proper technique, it can hurt a bit.

Why would you think that all of these people are doing it wrong without considering that you were just lucky? That’s like saying having vaginal sex for the first time doesn’t hurt if you do it right. Well, that may be true for some and not for others.

Also, there’s no “right” or “wrong” way to have consensual sex. Hell, some people want it to hurt.

@livelaughlove21 One thing to keep in mind. None of us (women or men) are created equally with it comes to the dimensions of our parts and what we find painful or pleasurable. We are all unique. I don’t want to suggest that there is something wrong with others because they can’t enjoy this or that. We each need to find what works for us and do that, exploring a bit from time to time to see if the pleasure dome radius can be increased a bit. My quarrel is with preconceived notions, not perceived pleasure or pain.