Do you need to be entertained everyday?
I have a friend who can’t stand to be alone for
very long and has to invite anyone over to her
place all the time.
Sometimes she cannot get anyone over so she
calls in her grandkids, picking them up, taking
them out for lunches, suppers, weekends, even doing things for them that they could do for themselves.
Her bank account is very low and still she will not accept being alone for any lengh of time.
She has run herself ragged running around doing errands for various people in a seniors apartment block.
Its like she can’t stand her own company.
I feel that at times it is a good thing to be alone either with nature or painting or just quietness to get a better perspective on things for oneself.
But she seems not to be able to do this.
She is trying to fill in every hour with doing something.(anything).
Oh yes, she is losing weight at a rapid pace.
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Why are you so concerned with your friend? That seems to be an issue separate from your question.
Personally I entertain myself every day, it is true. That is not the same as disliking being alone, running myself ragged, losing weight or running out of money.
(How about being inspired to write accurately?)
Has your friend always been this way? It sounds like she’s older; if it’s a new trait, perhaps she’s afraid of falling ill and being alone when it happens. The fear of that kind of thing happening might be driving her.
I love to be alone. Covet it even. That being said, if I’m not reading, Fluthering, cleaning, cooking, or watching tv – then I’m napping. I simply cannot sit around and do nothing. Makes me fidgety.
So I do like to have my day filled, just not necessarily with other people.
Some people don’t like to be alone. It’s not that they dislike their own company, they just simply don’t like being alone. For those people, being alone is complete agony. Some people are loners, some people are people persons, and most of us fall somewhere on the spectrum.
She and other people also like to be active all of the time. Those folks tend to be type A people and they often get a lot of work done. They make good care-takers and volunteers.
Is this new behavior for her? Is she recently widowed or divorced? If so, that would scare the crap out of most people, hence her need to be with people. If she’s always been like this, then I don’t see the problem (her low bank account seems to be un-related to whether or not she likes to be around people all the time).
I’m like @gailcalled in that I entertain myself on a regular daily basis, but I’m entertained quite easily and almost never get bored. I also don’t mind being alone, but I also enjoy being with friends and family. When I’m alone I love to read, Fluther, take photographs, cook, look up recipes, listen to music, watch movies on Netflix, read the funny papers, drive around town etc. When I’m with friends and family I like to go on hikes, visit with their dogs and cats, cook, garden, go to potlucks, take photographs at our family parties, go on day trips with my brother, go to the zoo, go camping, go to concerts and movies etc.
Jesus I can’t understand how people like this survive. I know plenty of them, but damn.
No, I actually covet large swatches of time to myself. It is in these times that I feel I truly thrive because I go into a whirlwind of creativity.
I think most of my friends’ problems could be solved with hobbies.
Every minute. But I prefer being alone or with the wife when being entertained.
I could probably win the Guinness award for most days spent alone and inside.
Not at all, I love being alone, can easily and happily entertain myself for hours and hours and rarely get bored. I am also an extrovert but very balanced, I call myself an extroverted hermit. haha
A perfect split right down the middle. Partly personality style, partly being an only child. Only children learn to look to themselves more and utilize their imagination and creative side.
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Her husband passed away three years ago.
I have known her for eight years now and this is the first inkling that I noticed about her need to have company “all” the time?
I know that she is considering moving to another part of Canada to live with her bachelor son?
( to fill the need of constant company)?
I just came to the realization that maybe my friend has abandonment issues?
Her grandchild is turning 13 years of age and may be spending more time with her friends and activities(sports camps).
In short, she fells left out of her own adult childrens lives.
She has not moved on to independance and relying on herself more yet.
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Clearly she is fearful of her own company. Maybe you could find her some books on self actualization and the joys of solitude. I am very wary of those that cannot be alone with themselves. Smacks of neediness and neediness is not part of healthy relationships. We can all feel and go through vulnerable times but one must be comfortable in their own skin.
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