Would you abandon your children if you found out they were not yours biologically?

Bonds formed, energy spent, memories created…not a fucking chance!!

that’s just the worst thing I ever read. Hope it’s not true.

Like it’s the kid’s fault they aren’t his biological offspring. Surprise, dad! Fooled ya!

Jerk.

No. I would still want to be involved, for the sake of the child.

I wouldn’t (and couldn’t). But there are assholes everywhere.

Any child is worthy of love and respect, they’re just little people that as a society we’re ALL responsible for.

That being said, maybe this guy felt lied to and betrayed and needs time to wrap his head around the reality of the situation.

If the woman kept it from him, then shame on her, maybe she needs to explain to the children why ‘daddy’ left.

Isn’t his wife a jerk/ahole as well?

@Paradox25 Well you’d think she has to be if she let him raise three kids by another man, something’s shady and wrong here. And of course the kids pay the penalty for dumb adults. Bleh…

I guess I’d also wonder a bit about a guy that has no clue his wife is having affairs with other men (man?) for this long. The relationship has some major flaws. But punishing the kids is wrong.

Being a father (or mother) involves a lot more than biology. I love my children because of who they are and who I am when I’m with them. Not because we share some genetic material.

I suppose the female equivalent would be being handed the wrong baby at the hospital. I can’t imagine being able to stop loving my children if I found out they weren’t actually mine.

I can’t imagine how he must have felt. I wonder how it would feel to pay child support to the mother knowing she had cheated on you three times and lied about you being the father to these kids. Would you be able to hand over money to her without flinching? I think it would be hard for me to judge the guy.

Anyone can be a sperm donor. But it takes guts to be a father. That man’s influence in those children’s lives could save the world, whether or not he shares their DNA.

@Bellatrix Oh I agree, and I don’t think if this was me in his boat that I could never abandon children that I’d formed a bond with, and like others have said it’s not the kids fault.

@bkcunningham Yes this is a tough one. The guy is actually a decent person, but quiet and passive. His current wife (whom I know as well) treats him very badly as well because she can get away with it. You brought up points that I would have to consider as well, and this situation had the potential to create a mess.

I’d asked myself these questions as well: What would had followed if he did want to continue being there for those kids? Would he had been able to gain custody of them? What if one or more of the biological fathers caught wind of this? (each of the three kids apparently were the offspring of different guys rather than one)

Oh the wife is definitely the root of evil in this situation, but I can’t see myself abandoning the kids because of her wrongdoing.

How would it have been feasible for him to take care of the kids in this type of situation, considering the questions I’d asked above. I’m no lawyer or legal expert.

I’m not saying he has to be 100% responsible for them, but to completely cut off all contact is awful.

I mean, think of the kids. A parental split is hard enough when it’s your real dad.

“So, Daddy isn’t really Daddy, and he doesn’t love me anymore? Who is my daddy? does anyone love me?”