Best way to deal with pent up anger so that you don't take it out on others?

The internet is the worst place to spend your time when you are angry. Getting outside and doing yard work or just relaxing helps me. I take my anger out on my garden claw.

I’m about to take it out on a kayak oar. :) Going to do some exploring!

@Mama_Cakes Good. Hard physical exertion is good for working off anger.

There you go! can I come with? :)

@jonsblond Please do! Heading out to Lake Michigan. It’s smooth like glass. :)

Here’s a mellow song for you too.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xunRwhBvOA4

You’re a good person and life is hard, without my music and my animals, I’d probably be angry, too. Just take a sabbatical and find your happy!

I see it differently, you would frequently “lash out” on here, we’ve had a few tasty battles in the past…ahh, memories.
I think you’re cool & the gang now & have definitely mellowed, still with a little sting in your tail, but that’s okay, some folks ask for it & besides, it makes me laugh.

Exercise. Plus, read and follow “Desiderata”.
Plus, why give in to anger over things you do not control. Save it for when it might do you some good.

@josie Thanks. I needed that (Desiderata).

Get a pillow. Punch it hard in a downward motion swinging from your shoulder, screamiing as you do, “Take that.” “Take it.”

Stand with your feet shoulder width apart with your arms bent at the elbow and fisted. Thrust your arm backward saying, “Get off my back.” “Get off my back.” Repeat.

Attach your angry self to a vacuum cleaner, broom, mop, lawn mower or spade and get moving.

I always go out the house (because if I am angry it is usually another person in the house that has made me so) and do something physical. While my dog was still alive it would usually entail taking her to the park and doing a lot of running about with her. Without fail, my anger would soon be gone.

For me, my best personal anger purge is vocal. As a teenager, even before I’d heard if primal scream therapy, I was practicing it. It’s hard on the vocal cords, though. I like to sing at the top of my lungs along with angry music – the original Alice In Chains albums were great for that while I was going through my separation and divorce in the ‘90s.

I also like to find the words that best express my feelings, so I will write or type a journal entry or a letter to the object of my ire that I probably won’t send.

I never found physical distractions as effective as actually expressing and processing the feelings and the circumstances behind them, since those things are still there after you clean the house or come back from your jog.

I understand that you are frustrated by things beyond your control, but almost everything is beyond our control. Coming to accept that the only thing that I can control is what I do at this very moment relieved a lot of my tension. Take some time to contemplate the issues that are upsetting you… if they are beyond your control, is there anyone who does have control? Are there any actions you can take that might have influence on the situation?

“It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.”
― Epictetus

“Any person capable of angering you becomes your master;
he can anger you only when you permit yourself to be disturbed by him.”
― Epictetus

While you may have little or no control over most things, you DO have control over how you allow yourself to be affected by them. Yeah, sometimes things do suck, but remember that we all take turns riding on the “This Sucks” train.

Try to think of the hours in your day as currency, and how you choose to spend them. Spitting nails, or laughing out loud ? Raising your blood pressure, or taking a nice nap ? Bouncing off the walls, or dancing on the table ?

I’m no expert, but I can offer you this guarantee:

Once today is over, we ain’t gonna get it back…

Walk as fast as you can as long as you can. Cool down. Repeat as necessary.

Fast walk clears my head some too. Although for me it’s usually the moody blues that bothers me – not anger.

Oh, sweetie, it happens. (But, just for the record, I don’t think you’re b*tchy in the least.)

How to cope with pent-up anger?

—Give yourself the right to be angry.

—Exercise. Not a walk around the block, but the kind of vigorous activity that breaks a sweat, boosts your heartbeat, and leaves you winded.

—An organizing project. Pull everything out of your messy underwear drawer, discard the worn and frayed items, and put everything back nicely. Tackle your refrigerator by discarding all the old, crusted stuff and scrubbing each surface with a disinfecting wipe. Put some order to your gift-wrapping supplies. Reconcile your #$#%-ing checkbook.

—Write tell-all, accusatory letters that you’ll never mail.

—Love nature. Go outdoors on a gorgeous, sunny morning, before the day’s craziness has started, and devour all that wonderful, fresh-smelling air. Stand by your window during a heavy rainstorm and love how the water sounds as it forcefully hits every surface.

—The next time you shower or take a bath, shave your legs all the way to the top, care for the rough spots on your elbows and feet, and use your favorite hair conditioner. After you’re dried-off, smear some marvelous body lotion all over yourself.

Doing yoga and deep breathing can help release this anger. I have found that through meditation it’s easier to let go of these things and it can help to improve your mood.

Find out the true cause of your anger, then handling it will come easy.

@Inspired_2write I already know the cause, and it is something that I have no control over. Only my reaction to it, I guess.

@Mama_Cakes
Is your anger controlling you or are you controlling the anger?
Meditation, with understanding, with training to be calm helps.
For some just being out in nature helps.Just getting away from noise settles the mind.

Pay it forward. Sometimes you cannot change the way things are (the sh*tty situation) but you can go out and make someone else’s day/week/year/life better in big ways and small ways. Concentrate on doing stuff for other people (who deserve it) so that you don’t have as much time to dwell on your anger. It’s OK to be angry about whatever this situation is, but if you dwell on it, it will make you angrier and possibly sick in the end.

So get out the baking dishes, figure out which one of your neighbors might like a treat, and get to work.

Hope the situation resolves itself, or at least eases : )

@Inspired_2write you’re exhausting.

Exercise will burn that anger right up, any kind of physical workout will oh and many don’t realize that exercise is also good for depression also.

Stomp on someone else’s Cheetos