Does it seem to you that some people actually enjoy and thrive on drama?

Yes, there are some people that feel the need for conflict to validate themselves. it is terribly unhealthy, and reflects their inability to achieve validation by themselves.

And the worst part is it needs your participation, and that is already bothering you. So be healthy for yourself and set boundaries. Tell her that she does not respect you or your relationship, and (this is the hard part) that if she continues, your relationship is over.

You need to be strong for yourself and not put up with this. If you let it continue, your relationship will fail anyway because of your eventually getting resentful over the continued drama cycle.

She sounds insecure and not mature at all. She is doing it because she enjoys the power and control she gets from it over you. On the other hand maybe you are possibly blowing it out of proportion and she told you this so that you are not caught off guard by it when these guys do approach her when you are with her. Pretty hard to say though…..If whatever your gut is telling you I’d go with, I find more times than not it is spot on.

But my question for you is why are you still with her? Personally, and I don’t FULLY know the situation. I wouldn’t put up with that shit. Give her the boot.

Definitely. In my experience, these are people that are fundamentally lacking, and are filling the void with drama.

I used to go out with a guy like that and it got tiring. It’s like if all these girls want you, then go be with them.

Sounds like you should break up with her.

I think some people thrive on drama and many of them don’t even realize it. There are so many people who are so used to be surrounded by drama, and every single thing becoming a huge dramatic, intense event, that they don’t know how to cope unless that is what happening.

A long time ago a friend described an image that I think really captures what is going on with people who do this: She described someone sitting in a wading pool splashing and splashing and getting water everywhere and all over themselves and screaming, “it’s raining, it’s raining, why won’t it stop raining?!”

Yeah, I think some people are like that. @SuperMouse, that is a brilliant analogy.

I have a friend like this and I have been evaluating whether the friendship is worth it…

I’m not saying that it is in this case, or always, but sometimes that behavior is indicative to a mental health issue. Something along the lines of borderline personality disorder.

And you stay with this person because . . . .?

I believe that it stems from insecurity and a way to control you or get you to commit?
I had an ex boyfriend who did heavy flirting right in front of me.( he did this quite often)
I walked over to the lady of whom my boyfriend chose to target to get a jeleous response from me and said the following to both of them:
” If you want my boyfriend go ahead and take him, as I do not want such a insecure and controlling person in my life anymore”.
Curiously they parted?
It was a game of which he lost.

I would say that your girlfriend is looking for reassurance of her attractiveness or your love for her. My soon-to-be ex-husband is like this – he will sometimes focus on something about the divorce that he knows upsets me just to get that reassurance that I will miss him or whatever. The others are right though, if you don’t react to it, the other person will lose interest fast.

To me, someone who loves drama, is someone who isn’t happy unless there is shit being stirred. Being happy or seeing others happy is just too boring for them. They have to find some way to introduce negativity and be the center of attention.

Love the analogy @SuperMouse. If I could take it further and potentially break it with my musings, I would say these people are so taken with what is going on the surface they never dive into the water and experience full immersion.

Yes, especially those who have no real life. They have to create one.