We need to show grace and friendship to those who struggle, while holding fast to what the Scriptures teach. Without hiding our beliefs, we need to look for opportunities to have conversations, build relationships, and demonstrate grace. Showing compassion, and mercy of gays I do, and have done. I have had very good friends who were gay. They have since moved away and gone other places, but if I ran into them today and they said they were married I would not recognize that. Have a conversation, sure, am I going to hate on them, no. I have never hated gays, but I can’t and won’t condone their iniquity. To my error, I have been more tolerant of fornicators because I was one for so long. Thank God, He straightened me out. However, this is what He spoke through the apostles in Romans
Romans 1:24–32
New King James Version (NKJV)
24 Therefore God also gave them up to uncleanness, in the lusts of their hearts, to dishonor their bodies among themselves, 25 who exchanged the truth of God for the lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen.
26 For this reason God gave them up to vile passions. For even their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature. 27 Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due.
28 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a debased mind, to do those things which are not fitting; 29 being filled with all unrighteousness, sexual immorality, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, evil-mindedness; they are whisperers, 30 backbiters, haters of God, violent, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, 31 undiscerning, untrustworthy, unloving, unforgiving,[b] unmerciful; 32 who, knowing the righteous judgment of God, that those who practice such things are deserving of death, not only do the same but also approve of those who practice them.
I am not standing in judgment of them apart what the Bible tells me. I will respect them same as any other person, so long as they keep their iniquity away from anything that is mine. Any Christian who would approve of such is as guilty as those doing it. Homosexuality was singled out as far as sexual immorality goes, which includes those who sleep around, shack up without the need to get married, and even that older person who want to fornicate with a much younger person (which maybe illegal from a point of law depending on where in the world they are living). I can stand and say I am no bigot, because that love that pastor was talking about I extend to gays in their sexual immorality as much as the person who sexual appetite is for young flesh, as well as those who have many sexual encounters sans marriage. I would find it hard to discover any gays who would extend to certain others (some would call sex offenders) love and understanding they themselves want because of the relations they want to have. To cover it while we are here, if gays want to be gay but refrain from any same sex fornication (because that is all they can ever really have) then I would not see need to distance myself , for I would not be a partaker, even in the 3rd position to that iniquity.