NSFW: intimacy in a shower?

Slippery, awkward, potentially dangerous and not fun.

Pro: no mess to clean afterwards.

@bob_ Other than a possible trip to ER for concussion or slipped disc.

Depending on the shower type assuming it is a regular tub with curtains… Can be moderate in effort.

I wouldn’t recommend this for new people.

It is fun no clean up and I love steam and water for sensory people this is a delight.

But also bad for people with asthma.

Not a good choice for the first time. It can be fun, but it can also be uncomfortable – consider only one of you can have your back to the shower at one time… the other one is going to be wet and cold. And if you’re not both standing up… there’s always the risk of water up the nose.

It just introduces logistics that you shouldn’t have to worry about on the inaugural run. Later? Go nuts, experiment.

Most overrated place. I mean I absolutely hate touching the walls in a bathtub/shower setting. I also don’t get to see a full on “arch.”

The bed is the best place for a first time.

I have trouble dealing with the water and the slipperiness. It would not be easy for your friend to orgasm as it is her first time.

@gailcalled Well, yeah, but then by the time you’re out of the ER someone else would have already cleaned up.

My legs would go out from under me, so I couldn’t imagine it. Come to think of it, I’ve never had a lover who could carry me. that doesn’t mean I’m big. I’m not. Bad backs and shortness of height, mostly, prevented it.

@Sunny2 Think standing doggie… I am sure there is a name for that… but i dunno what,,,

Guys, thanks so much for your great feedback, but your answers all include it being her “first time,” which it isn’t. She apparently is very experienced, but has never had sex in the shower.

Tried it once and never again. It was so awkward and fumbly. We tried to do it with him basically holding me up with my legs around his waist, but that felt super dangerous. From behind certainly wasn’t about to happen unless I got down on all fours. We ended up with him sitting on the side of the tub and me straddling him. Two bruised shins later, we swore off shower sex. We couldn’t even finish like that – we jumped out of the shower soaking wet and finished on the hotel room bed. Call me vanilla, but I prefer the comfort of a mattress.

I can see how showering together might be fun foreplay from time to time for some people, but I prefer to keep the sex out of the bathroom.

@iLindseyMarie From your question, I thought that it might not be your friend’s first time, but that it was their first time together. Otherwise, why is he asking her if she will sleep with him?

Anyway, if each of them knows what they like and don’t like together, it shouldn’t be difficult for her to decide whether or not to try sex in the shower.

Make up and wig might get smeared or wet.

I haven’t done that with my current partner, but with my last boyfriend, we would shower together all the time and sometimes it would turn into sexual acts…it was very awesome, not gonna lie. It’s not for everyone, but I don’t find it “weird” or anything; I know my roommate and his girlfriend do it (although specifically going in the shower just for sex wasn’t something I did; it was always just a consequence of showering together in the first place).

@glacial
Sorry for the confusion. He was asking if she should have sex with him in the shower, that’s what I meant. I was having a hard time trying to explain the situation, my apologies.

It makes a change every once in a while so go for it.

Ha ha… yeah, you wouldn’t actually “sleep with” somebody in a shower, drowning danger and all…

Shower sex-wise, I would tell your friend to go with whatever the passion is directing, but if she’s doing it to satisfy his fantasy, be prepared for exactly what @livelaughlove21 said as well as the water stripping away natural lubrication.

When it becomes “let’s finish this” instead of “I’m so into this”, call it done and move to a friendlier location.

Oh, yeah. Lack of natural lubrication, big con.

@iLindseyMarie No worries. It makes more sense now. :)

The shower washes away the natural lubricants, which makes sex paradoxically very dry and yet soaking wet at the same time. Showers are more fun for foreplay IMO.

Is this their first time? I think I would want to save that until I was a little more experienced with the partner.

If the female is wet enough she continues to lubricate wo the water becoming an inhibitor.

Girl/girl shower sex has worked out better for me than guy/girl shower sex. Guys I’ve been with have either been distracted by the water and had trouble performing or for some reason got off really quick. A lot also depends on the size of the shower. A really narrow shower can make foot positioning awkward. A shower without a tub might seem no different from having sex up against a wall. They should give it a try, though. Different strokes for different folks.

@Unbroken only if she is really into the scene, and depending on the angle and pressure of the water. It really is a buzzkill when there’s only resistant friction. That natural lube can dry up under water.

I used to have shower sex with my ex all the time.
It was uncomfortable and awkward. I only did it because it was quick and I wanted it to be over with. Is that bad?

@Katniss it’s no bueno.

@Katniss: That’s your question, not ours. But it doesn’t bode well for the relatioship.

It can be a lot of fun for foreplay, but is awkward as hell for the act itself. When you’re in a bedroom, the bed is just kind of… there, and the proceedings usually end up there before too long. That’s easier (logistically), but the ease can also mean that you do the same thing all the time. Hanging out in the shower is a fun way to try something new. It lends itself to standing positions, which are a fun variation. But! The shower is slippery and full of hard surfaces. So it’s a fun place for oral (his and hers), fingerbangs, and general tomfoolery, but it really doesn’t lend itself to intercourse.

I mean, they can try, and some people can probably make it work. But I’d recommend shower foreplay+ actual banging, somewhere else.

@Blueroses too true.. a little communication and some willingness to adjust for each other does work wonders.

But for a less attentive or awkward whether body size or just comfort level… can really make for some painful memories.

My boyfriend and I do it in the shower a lot. It’s great for a quickie as positions are limited so if you want a longer session then it’s probably best to move it into the bedroom. I also find shower sex very useful if it is my time of the month! We usually do it with me bending over and him taking me from behind, we don’t find it as difficult or awkward as others seem to.

Period sex…no thanks.

I’m at my horniest when I’m on my period so there is no way I could forgo sex during that time!

“Foreplay in a bathtub” can be great, and is highly recommended.

“Sex in the shower” is not such a great idea, for many of the aforementioned reasons.

@Leanne1986 I agree I hit my sexual peak the day or two before I start. Since I peak a little early it’s not imperative I get laid once I get going.. But I found if I space out my meals and eat light foods…I can mostly control my flow… but th shower is a nice just in case…

Pretty difficult.
I also hear it’s not so safe to get water in certain places.

No lube and no mess though, so it can be great if you have the right kind of shower. I have a small shower where there’s not room for much, but hotel showers are great for this

Eh we tried it, didn’t like it. It’s so sexy in movies, but in real life it just felt impratical. Too much thinking involved as far as positions, not falling on our asses, everything was too slippery, soap/water in my eyes, I don’t want soap in my vajayjay, etc.

It’s not great for sex, but it is a lot of silly giggly fun… It’s one of those fun, spontainious things that will be more memorable for the experience than the sex. Want great sex, pick a better workbench, such as a California King Size bed with memory foam mattress, down pillows and 1000 count Egyptian Cotton Sheets fresh air dried outdoors… On the other hand. I once spent a weekend at a place with one of those 100 foot square motion controlled showers and 24 showerheads at various levels, with various spray settings and a rubberized composite floor. It was… Memorable… Would definately do that again.