Do you ever feel like you are too ugly to go out?

Lets look at the big picture here..

Yes, there are going to be parts of our body that we don’t like. I don’t like my thighs, they’re big and no matter how much work out, they never go down. My brother broke my nose when I was a child, and now it looks horrible from the side.
But then again. No ones perfect. Everyone’s going to have things they hate about they’re body. I still hate these things about myself, but I know that this is me. This is what makes me unique.
And I’ve learnt to deal with it and move on.
Which I think everyone should.
That’s who we are. We shouldn’t be changing the way we look just so we look good for everyone else. We should look good for ourselves, and me being the way I am makes me happy.
I’ve never walked out of my front door and thought ‘I’m so ugly!’ I’ve thought ‘I’ve got imperfections, that I’m happy about.’

It’s today’s society that makes most of us think that we are ugly. Everyone judges us, even if they don’t know us they judge us and it really gets on my nerves.
But I’d never let anyone get me down because of the way I looked.

I am ugly. I constantly apologise for how I look. I constantly ask if I should wear more make up, change my hair, or my clothes to look better.

I may not be “attractive” per se, but I do not have an “ugly” personality, nor do I dress innapropriately for my (football-player-sized) body type. What’s more, I have a pretty nice voice.

So no, I never feel that way because I’m pretty happy with me in other areas.

Conversely, we’ve all met people who are “attractive” or hawt, with a repulsive personality or offensive clothing choices or a shrill and annoying voice — or even all three.

I’ve recently come to recognize that I may have what I think may be an odd social anxiety that’s sort of in this thread. I can relate to the aspect of something being off so that you don’t attend social functions.

I don’t really have self-esteem issues with regard to my looks – some people find me attractive and some don’t – but I have become almost paralyzed with a weird clothing anxiety. I have abandoned many social outings casual and formal, many times at the last minute, because I feel like “I’m not wearing the right outfit.” This may sound petty and silly and logically, I know it is too, but I’ve been totally overcome with “I can’t go out in these clothes” too many times to count. I also feel an overwhelming amount of pressure the day of any event which can ruin the spirit of the celebration I’m attending.

The odd thing is I live in Seattle – which is one of the most casual places I’ve ever lived. It’s not like the name-brand-checking, label-looking fashion of some of the east coast. The other odd thing is that I do not care what others wear – so it’s not like I’m so critical that I’m not meeting my own standards.

I don’t know what it’s about but I definitely need to identify why it’s happening and get it to stop. It’s really impacting my social life.

I get in those slumps. But they are unhealthy. And defeatist and it would consign me to a tomb so even if it were true…. why be controlled by it.

Yes

Dirty yes .. ugly no. Unless I’m wearing week old shorts with unbrushed teeth and hair.