Do you think it is more socially acceptable to claim you are more turned on by intelligent people than physically endowed people? Why is that ok?

? I’ve almost always been with hot, dumber people. What’s wrong with that? nothing.

Because the latter is shallow. If you give no thought to someone’s character, you are dumb.

Whatever floats your boat… its your life and your choice no ones else business.

Haha…I’ll take brains over brawn any day of the week. Yeah well…live and learn.
My ex husband was good looking and had a great body and er…. haha
He also had the intellect of a gopher.
Once he was dancing around the kitchen naked when he was about 40. He exclaimed ” I still have the ass of a 10 year old boy.”

My response..” Yes, and you have the mind of one too!” lol

He was such a narcissist.
Another favorite story….he was half drunk at a chinese restaraunt one night when the bill came.
He looked at the receipt and exclaimed ” Chung Du, CHUNG DU…we didn’t order anything called Chung Du!”

Uh…he was reading the part of the receipt with the abbreviation for Chg, Due!” OMG!
In that moment I knew I had married beneath me.
He’s been history for 10 years now. Fools be gone!

This time around I want a man that has an IQ that surpasses a potato, no matter how great his ass is. lol

Unless you meet someone and get to know them and become attracted over time, how someone looks is usually the first thing that will attract or detract. I don’t know many people who say “I’m always drawn to the ugliest person in the room”. Once you start getting to know someone, if they’re boring or an idiot great looks aren’t likely to sustain the interest of anyone but those who want a show pony. Looks are no guarantee of great sex.

So in the long term, if you only want to be with pretty people yeah, that’s a bit shallow and doesn’t bode well for the long term. Pretty and athletic are different things. Athletic can related to the way you like to spend your time. Exercising, being active. So that’s more involved than just ‘pretty’. We all age. So unless you want to keep updating so you can keep that pretty partner, looks will not be the long term, primary attraction. Athleticism might be.

Of course, we aren’t all attracted to the same looks either. So your gorgeous may not be mine.

I’d rather be with someone who makes me laugh, cuddles me when I’m sad and is capable of arguing with me about a million different topics. I want my partner to travel with me and be inquisitive and adventurous. I don’t really care if he’s what others consider hot. People are more attractive when you’re in love with them anyway.

Is it really? People always seem baffled by my taste. Like, I can’t figure out if I’m attracted to someone until I have a fairly decent grasp of their personality. That usually takes at least several in-depth talks.

For me what fuels attraction is the give-and-take between two people who are intrigued by each other. That tension and intrigue is way better than someone’s physical hotness.

Like, the last dude I had a really big crush on wore dorky clothes, was kind of overweight, and made really lame puns all the time… but! he was also thoughtful, intellectually curious, and introspective. I never got bored talking to him, and his stellar personality made the rest of him sexy and special in my eyes.

For me it can be two different kinds of turn-ons, initially. The physically attractive one is a physical attraction and the other is an intellectual attraction. One type of attraction can morph into the other, for example, the initial intellectual attraction can often lead to a physical attraction and vice versa. Being attracted in both ways is a recipe for a longer, more varied, and more meaningful relationship. Best of both worlds. Smart people turn me on. Nice, conscientious people really turn me on—they don’t even have to be really smart. Good-natured people get fast-tracked in my world. Willful stupidity, meanness, selfishness, self-centeredness, substance abuse—trashiness in general—are all huge turn-offs no matter how physically attractive the person may be.

Why is it OK to say you are into smart people and not into athletic people?
People on a greater sense lie to themselves, near everyone likes things that are pleasing to the eye. Let four people be dining and being served the same meal. If one get their plate and the vegetables are slopped into the mashed potatoes, and the salad has all the topping dumped on one side in a heap, I bet they say something to the server if not demand another more eye-pleasing plate. All the food is going to the same place anyhow, your stomach, but before it gets there we want it to look delicious.

You have 5 people enter an office to wait for something, more than not people who get there 1st will go for the chairs that look newer and with more cushion even though all the chairs might be the same style.

When it comes to people, most people want to get stupid and say that standard doesn’t apply. To like a man for of his deep he-man chest, or a woman because she has a small waist and cheesecake for days is shallow, because the person’s character was not in play. We eat tons of food not because it is healthy, but because it looks good, and taste OK.

As long as we are in the flesh, the flesh will like what it sees. Intelligence is something that is thought of as acquirable by most if they worked at it, so even those who are not physically attractive can be intelligent. Whereas beauty is an exclusive club that if you were not bone with the right combination of genetics, you won’t get in unless you go under the knife.

Who wants dumb children? No one.