Would you act on it if you had a crush on your friends' daughter/son?

Really depends on the age differential. I have had friends who are much older, and been friendly with their kids as a peer. A dating issue never came up, but in those situations if a potential dating opportunity arose I would have acted on it.

Probably not. If the friend is at all a close friend, definitely not. If it was just an acquaintance, it would depend on the age difference. All hypothetical, of course, since I’m married. I won’t be acting on any crush!

Yuck, no.

I can’t imagine it. I can’t imagine being attracted to a man that is more than 5 years my junior. Maybe that will change a little as I get older. I am 45 now.

Differential is a najor thing, as is the kids age.

Examples:

If I am 65 and the kid is 40, no problem
If I am 50 and the kid is 20, bad news – he’/she is too young
If I am 40 and the kid is 30, iffy

but no matter what it would be really uncomfortable to be with the friend/acquaintance, especially if you eventually broke up with the kid.

To be on the safe side, the “kid” should be over 25 and you should be the better judge of the situation with your friend. Sounds a bit perilous to say the least.

Only if I wanted to cross make the worst fucking decision ever off of my bucket list.

Can you tell us your ages, please?

This sounds like that Hugh Laurie movie I can’t remember the name of…

No, it would be way too weird.

@answerjill mine? Or the assumed people? Or the people who answered the question?

Well, in my head I was thinking like a 22 year old female and a 35 year old man…

Any 35 year old guy who is interested in a 22 year old girl I am not so confident that man really will want to have a lasting relationship, and I question his maturity. 35 is so different than 22 in life. If they were 45 and 32, that would be more palatable. But, still the child of a friend thing is wierd and uncomfortable.

However, a close friend of mine at 19 married a friend of her dad’s. The two men worked together. I think he was 10 years older than her, 29, when they got married. Her dad would have been 36 at the time.

Lord No! I would not want all that emotional baggage that comes with someone that much younger than me.

Watch American Beauty. It ends badly.

My friend’s kids are around 20, and nope.

Hell no! Of all the gazillions of potential flings, why the F—- would you even consider playing with that kind of fire?

Nope.

Wow, that would just be super creepy. I would go get my head checked right away. I would think I must be suffering from dementia.

Nope, I would start distancing myself if there were no other way.

Absolutely not. Although there are probably no laws against it, it would simply put everybody in an uncomfortable/odd/weird place. Also, I’m guessing that the kid (although an adult) would be quite a bit younger than me, something I’m not comfortable with. But mostly no, because it’s just plain awkward, like dating a step brother or a cousin. There are certain lines that I don’t want to cross.

Also, it would be really awful if the relationship with the kid ended badly

I don’t see what the big deal is with dating a much younger person. I’m 40 and I’m considering dating a girl in her early twenties. The scenerio mentioned in the question though would likely turn me off, because they would be connected to my friend and that particular scenerio spells trouble to me.

@Paradox25 For me, the idea of dating someone much younger or much older is the fact that we would probably have very different maturity levels, and with someone with a 20 year difference would have very different life experiences (I recently had a conversation with a co-worker who is 15 years younger than me and he had never heard of The Monkees and had little knowledge of The Beatles, and had no interest in either 60’s era rock and roll, or classical music, two things that are important to me). I would not be a good match for someone 20 years younger than me, either, because I could not tell you anything about any popular music from the last 15 years or so, have no interest in anime or zombies, and I am a techno-dummy, and I am not in a position to have or raise children, something that most younger fellows would probably want, at some point.

On the other hand, have no interest in talking about WWII in any great length, so someone 20 years older would probably not work well for me, and I’m guessing that someone much older than me, would likely not be interested in trying vegetarian food (none of my relatives or friends in that age range are). And since I’m a vegetarian, that would be important to me too, and the fellow might not be too happy to hear that I don’t know how to cook meat and have no interest in cooking meat. So it’s not the age itself, it’s more of a personal thing for me, that I would prefer to date someone that is more in line with my own life experiences.

I also know there are exceptions, and that’s totally cool. I have no objections to other people dating people way out of their age range, but for me, I wouldn’t want to do that. On the other hand, I have friends that range in all ages from my best friend’s 14 year old grandaughter and my 80 years plus neighbors, that I adore. But that’s a whole nother type of relationship.

@Kardamom I used to prefer older girls most of my life, because when you’re like 18 many girls around my age were very immature. I was always mature for my age compared to my peers. Now as I’ve gotten older I’m realizing that age by itself, though it can be a good indicator, is not very adequate for determining maturity levels (sadly).

I had problems with older women, including a chronic gambler and drinker. Some of the 20 to 25 year olds have more in common with me than the older women or ones around my age. I know I definitely don’t want an immature 20 something either, but some of the younger girls are more mature than the older ones. Also, many older guys are immature too so it can work both ways.