Women folk: Would you sleep with a lot more people if you believed they would never talk about it?

I wouldn’t talk about it.

just sayin’

No, not at all.

No. My choice to have sex with other people isn’t driven by what others think of me so whether the person tells anyone won’t make me want to sleep around more. When I was single, my choice not to sleep with a potential lover was based on me not finding them physically or intellectually or emotionally attractive in some way. It was also affected by my knowledge that if I slept around indiscriminately, I wouldn’t feel good about myself. I might feel used and just trashy.

@Bellatrix Do the men on vacation count the same? Are men on vacation like empty calories?

Yeah, coz that’s not shallow at all ~

There’s more to the “anonymous sex while on vacation” thing than just the other person talking about you… it’s also that they won’t follow you home or try to talk to you again. There’s a lot more control involved (well… on some levels).

@ucme I am glad you are here to keep us from being shallow

Do as your name suggests.

No. If I were to sleep around, I would be an equal opportunity sleep arounder. In other words, I would sleep around at home and on vacation. But I don’t.

@glacial Is that a thing? Do men put more emphasis on intimacy than women do sometimes?

@Imadethisupwithnoforethought Sure, that’s a thing. Ask your women friends who are so forthcoming. ;)

Nope. I don’t care who talks about what, I care about whether or not I want to sleep with them. Since I’m happily married, I only sleep with one guy anyway. He can tell whoever he likes, haha.

No I would not.

@glacial So on vacation, they don’t have the worry about men feeling they are all emotionally tied up because it was just a vacation thing and “Why are you calling me at home loser vacation guy?”

No – that has nothing to do with who I sleep with at this point. However, I wouldn’t sleep with too many squishies because they would probably pm each other.

@janbb That seems kind of squishy. I wouldn’t sleep with a lot of people, however, I am worried about sleeping with certain people as they might tell

@Imadethisupwithnoforethought It’s more like, “I don’t have to worry about there being any consequences of any kind following this decision.” It’s not about whether or not the guy is emotionally tied up. I don’t think women particularly expect that. But it might be a risk on home territory. Or the guy might be crazy. Or want a repeat performance that isn’t desired. Or whatever.

@glacial I get it. All the crap that men put on women who sleep with them, you can check out of it.

@Imadethisupwithnoforethought, I can’t recall having a ‘holiday’ one-night stand. I must have missed out.

@Bellatrix When do you plan to visit new England? Asking for a friend…

We’ll get told to get a room again. Perhaps in New England!

@Bellatrix give me a few weeks notice next time

No, that’s it. You blew your chance. I would expect you to change your plans. Sighs…

OMG @Bellatrix and @Imadethisupwithnoforethought get a room already!

Can I watch?

@chyna, there’s no point. His schedule doesn’t suit :-) And you’d have to be there too remember? And you too @janbb. No watching only participating allowed. He blew it though.

@Female persons

Don’t make me the bad guy. You would be just as angry if I cancelled some young ladies plans to be with you.

@janbb The real question is, can we talk about it?

Would I? Who told you that furphy?

Oh yes @augustlan, we would have to tell the world.

I think we need a women of Fluther chicks only orgy! Now that would be worth talking about!

@janbb I disagree. You need only a woman only orgy if you are worried I will tell people

@Imadethisupwithnoforethought Or if we don’t want to be with the boyz. Ever think of that?

Yeah! A chicks only orgy sounds like great @janbb!

We won’t have time for you Mr @Imadethisupwithnoforethought.

I have been told it is wrong to assume women engage in lingerie pillow fights when I am not around @janbb. I am trying to grow as a person.

@Imadethisupwithnoforethought It must be late; I read that as “I am trying to grow a penis.”

No. I am monogamous by nature. I would not want to sleep with anyone that I was not in love with. If I’m with someone in a relationship, I have no desire to be with anyone else. It’s fun, sometimes, to look at eye candy, but I have no desire to sleep with anyone that I’m not in love with/involved with in a monogamous relationship. But that’s just me.

@janbb I have rarely had group sex with librarians, be patient with my early set up attempts

@Imadethisupwithnoforethought Well, we’ll have to shelve our inhibitions and not do it by the book!

@janbb I didn’t say I have never been with a librarian. I said I hadn’t gotten the opportunity to share her with a group.

First time for everything then.

@janbb How you doing?

Are you that guy who messaged me on OKCupid last week?

Did you state that you were a librarian who would be open to random group sex from visiting Australian high IQ hotties? Cause if that is not in your profile, you are not selling it

You found me out!

@janbb We joke, as you save your coolest points for vacation

Well, I am going away next weekend. Don’t tell anyone.

@janbb Hot thing about librarians, they always tell me how much they know and I will never get about the stuff they know.. So cute.

I’m going on vacation too… at the same time as @janbb.

@Bellatrix You’ve got your tickets right, and know the meet-up room? I ordered the wine and cheese.

@janbb Um, the aussie is mine,l I think I saw her first

@Imadethisupwithnoforethought I think the lady gets to choose – “it is him or me?”

Sings – “I’m so excited!” Got my ticket, got the hotel name, got the special outfits we .. never mind. I’ll save that for later :D

@janbb Agreed, but you were all shy till I made the move.And I was thinking a group thing? Are you getting possessive? No wonder the women hide it.

@Bellatrix And after the orgy, we can have a cup of tea together!

@Imadethisupwithnoforethought Boys just hate to be left out, don’t they? Well, maybe we’ll let you play.

@janbb That is sexist. When me and @Bellatrix are together, I will insist she call you. You let me know if you feel left out or not

Of course tea @janbb and eccles cakes or something suitably British. You can join us for tea if you like @Imadethisupwithnoforethought.

No. I think it would cause mental health issues and physical health issues.

@Imadethisupwithnoforethought Should be “when Bellatrix and I are together.” Good thing you didn’t invite gailcalled!

@janbb I am gonna get with that hot Australian lady. You can keep passing it off like my idea, but I don’t blame you at all.

It wouldn’t matter if they were mute and would never talk about it. I could not live with the guilt it would come with. In the end. You cannot stop conscious from making itself known every day.

I don’t not sleep with people cuz I’m afraid they’ll blurt it out, and I don’t think all dudes talk about their sleeping adventures with everyone around. I think life is a little deeper than that, or so I like to think, and no pun intended.

But how the fuck would I know, I get rejected by video game characters.

“But how the fuck would I know, I get rejected by video game characters”

Pretty sure that I lurve you. lol

What’s the guilt with sleeping?

@RealEyesRealizeRealLies I think most of the women responding are in relationships, and are responding on the basis of “sleeping with more people” = “cheating”. This is a different question for single women than it is for attached women.

@glacial I’m a single woman but I still find at this point, I can’t engage in casual sex. Maybe in the nursing home, I’ll fuck like a bunny.

I have definitely been more conservative in my sexual exploits like @janbb as a single woman.

I have to live in the town I sleep in and years of running into multiple exes in one place sure gives one a pause.

One of my self imposed rules is to only sleep with one guy in a network of close friends. This is not because of guilt but for self respect I have known certain guys to be circumspect and been surprised namely on one occasion when one of my girl friends called me up to tell me how her husbands best friend rated me. Awkward

Still the reason I self impose that rule is primarily for my own self respect, and it has the fringe benefit of minimizing drama I see many embroiled in.

For vacation adventures I have the odd habit of keeping in contact with my flings. In fact one of my “call me when you are in town” guys just recently got married. Good thing I have no plans on returning there in the near future.

I haven’t been worried about people talking about it since I got married. Sex is what normal adults do. It’s the kind of thing you worry about in high school, with good reason.

@imadethisupwithnoforethought Odd now that I think about it. That women would profess to be worried about what people or men specifically would say. And then she is telling you. A little counterintuitive a secret can be kept only when the 2nd person is dead.

For me, sex is just as much an emotional experience as a physical one, so I don’t think it would be good for my health if I were to sleep with many people. So, in the end, whether or not the other person talks is basically irrelevant.

But we’re not talking about sex @hiraeth. This question is about “sleeping”.

I assume that’s why mods have not required the standard “NSFW” tag.

Yeah, sleeping with someone ain’t shallow at all, just a friendly little sleepover between friends.
Don’t know what all the fuss is about.

sleepover means pillows for all! :D

Fwuffy ones at that…PILLOW FIGHT!!!

Oh well in that case, I’m all for it. :D

Do we get pancakes in the morning?

Yes & lashings of ginger beer, hoorah!!