(NSFW) What are some men's sexual fantasies?

Two women: girlfriend and someone else.

Dude, it sounds exhausting, at least for him. It may well be that he would consider a special night to be one where things are simple and satisfies his need to “love seeing you cum.” Otherwise it is about you.

”..an impenetrable wall” seems pretty unambiguous.

He may be embarrassed to even share his fantasies, let alone act on them.

Frequent advice given is to watch porn that goes beyond your experiences, and use that as a starting place to discuss opinions and fantasies with each other.

If he happens to mention a fantasy that goes way beyond your comfort zone, you have to be careful how you let him know that it’s not appealing to you, or it could shut down further sharing.

Sensory deprivation: while down to his underwear, blindfold, noise cancelling earphones, hands tied (at least at the start) and then, undress him, slowly, so he can’t anticipate when he will be fully nude. Fondle him, touch his body various places an d ways, kiss him, use your tongue in various places and ways, take your time.

At various times rub your breasts on him, rub on his face, brush his lips with your nipples, let him tongue them.

You can put syrup or whip cream on him, all slowly, then lick it off, put some in your mouth and then put it in his mouth.

And then, you can give him great head, or straddle him, which ever you prefer. You’ll have driven him wild, and when he comes it will be wild for him and for you.

“So far it has been an impenetrable wall.”

Many men don’t share their wildest fantasies for fear of being judged as perverted, or having the confession used against them at a later time.

Men that cannot or do not share, those are the ones who like to feel in control. They are dominant and will not intentionally reveal weakness. If you want to please him, then allow him to play out the fantasy of that dominance.

Most male fantasy is two women. Although I am not gay in any way, I have offered to do this, but he doesn’t want me to. To be honest, I don’t think he could handle two. I think he just likes the actual fantasy.

Apart from that, is there any clothing or uniform that he finds attractive, maybe a role you could play? My boyfriend likes fishnet stockings, so I bought a fishnet dress. He likes high boots, so I just wear those alone. He likes a schoolgirl outfit, so I bought that and say ‘yes Sir’.

Does he like you dominant or submissive? There are endless things you could do.

@elbanditoroso Yewouch! I did ask but I have done this before and did not find it as pleasurable as anticipated. I suppose if we went ‘shopping’ for the right gal together, and she wasn’t a friend, I might be more open. Thanks.

@gailcalled I would think so too but it is driven mostly by him I am a willing participant. But he usually grills me, is very attentive to how I respond. I figure well maybe at some later date, but he usually incorporates it almost immediately. I am very satisfied with the results and we have managed to have some good old fashioned vanilla and great laughing sex.

Self edited for gushing. Thanks though that tangent I went on helped bring up a few gems.

Lol as to the impenetrable wall it is an exaggeration but with a certain amount of merit. He does shut down to direct approach if he doesn’t redirect to me or another topic.

@bossob Good point about gently letting him down. I will inquire as to the porn he enjoys watching and what gets him most excited.. good idea. He is a great listener and observor and he is opening up to me but he seems to hold his privacy as sacred and I have a hard time knowing where the boundary is before he will shut down. Approaching things laterally seems to yield the best results as a whole, so great idea.

@zenvelo Hmm sounds like it could be fun. Is it the proper protocol to ask him first or surprise him? I mean I could always stop if that is what he wants. He responds positively and vocally to assertions like going down on him riding him, or lightly fight him when he withholds but when I smack his ass or grab it or pin him to the wall etc I haven’t gotten a clear read on whether he enjoys it. He seems conflicted.

@RealEyesRealizeRealLies Yes Sir! : P Seriously he does the assertive bit well so that could be the case. However I wonder whether he does it merely because I respond positively to it. I feel at times like he could be just reflecting the image he imagines I want portrayed. He is most frequently vocal, writhing or laughing when I am taking the lead but not dominating.

@Headhurts We haven’t even begun to talk about role playing or dressup. It is something to consider. I have no idea what his preferences would be on that front.

@gailcalled Never heard you say dude before. That kicked ass.

@Symbeline I was quite shocked and honored myself. Though the honor is no doubt presumptuous : )

@Symbeline I that that was cool too.
@Unbroken How’s he with girl girl? I came across a story that was pretty wild.

@Adirondackwannabe No idea I imagine he would excel. He loves excelling and takes pride in it.

Do tell….

Okay, this is a little extreme, but it turned me on. The wife got the hubby to agree to be tied up. He was always the one in control. They had some nice sexy treats, relaxed and then she tied him up. She was doing some opening little acts to him, teasing him a bit and getting him relaxed. Unknown to him she had two women that were going to break in and basically ravage her on the bed or on him. He couldn’t do anything about it and they totally had their way with her. They used her everyway and he couldn’t do anything. When they finished, they laid her beside him, dressed, told him it was her idea, and untied him and ran fast. He was so hot he screwed the hell out of her.

I… lead… such… a… boring… life…

Then you’re not leading it… It’s… leading… you…

Invite @Coloma

@josie Oh, happy brownies. Then anything goes.

@Adirondackwannabe Good story but I think I might be too conservative on that front… Might make interesting fanatsy fodder later though ;)

@Lucky_Guy Lucky for you so easy to change was it just a month or two ago I was miss celibate proper….

@josie Now Coloma would indeed make a nice third do the brownies count as four??? Whaddya think @Coloma, slightly tempting??

Two words, Mini skirts.

One word… No skirt.

@RealEyesRealizeRealLies Yes. Eventually the skirt must come off.

Actually the skirt doesn’t always have to come off. A flouncing skirt can be visually stimulating too. Also great for vehicles.

That’s okay it was extreme. If my girl would greet me out of the bath or in the bedroom in a sexy classy piece of lingerie, with some sweet, not overpowering scent, and just acknowledge her sexuality it would be a total turn on.

@Adirondackwannabe Truth!! I do love vanilla and classics.

I enjoy spice but I easily get overstimulated and sometimes the most memorable times are just basics skin on skin bodies eyes and mouths communicating working in concert and comfortable.

Nice to hear that isn’t just a woman’s perspective. I realize a good time for one doesn’t necessarily mean a great time for the other but it is nice to know men and women can get on the same page.

@Unbroken Sometimes the circus isn’t the best place to get it on, sometimes go back to the words of an immortal. John Wooden said always commit to the fundamentals.

Okay if we’re going soft and sexy then a full body massage, both sides, for each of you. Get some really nice high quality lotion and just go wild.

We did a weekend get away, and my wife’s present to me was to wear skirts the entire time, with nothing on underneath. She gave me unrestricted access the entire weekend to touch, pinch, slap, caress, or anything else I wanted to do, anytime and anywhere that I had the nerve to do something. Her teasing me led to my teasing her, and back and forth it went all weekend. Starting and stopping, and occasionally finishing. We were both pretty sore by Sunday night.

with your little twin sisters.

French. Maid. Costume.

@Unbroken I just want you to give yourself to me totally.:)

@bossob That sounds very sexy. Glad to hear married folk still have plenty of fun! This can be easily geared toward longer term relationships. We are still in the honeymoon stage. I will keep this in mind for a future date.

@flimfann Frenchmaid French tickler Feather duster… I can dig it. Stilletos and black netted stockings (headhurts) coming up..

@ragingloli After I meet his seven older brothers.

@Adirondackwannabe Am I wrapping myself in cellophane or white chocolate cake, I wonder : P

I’m way to far from the top of the bell curve to poll about what other men may or may not want. The thing I love most of all is orally pleasing a woman till her clit can’t take any more then rolling her over and orally worshiping her feminine ass till she wants more attention up front. I’m old enough that even viagra has a hard time getting me hard, so I have learned to use my head, and in the process, I have become incredibly tuned in to the scent of woman. I’m not talking chemical preparations and perfumes, I mean her natural scents, front and back. I love the smell and taste of both.

I’d be delighted with a lover who truly enjoyed my oral ministrations but occasionally wanted a hard, surging cock in her pussy or ass. I’d delight in using my oral skills in that department to get the guy really hard, and in deep throating him till I had him coated with that incredibly slippery effluent that pours out of a throat gagging on cock (or anything else). It would be a delight to guide his slippery, slimey member into an excited pussy or ass, then lick both clean when she brought him to his climax. And of course, even better if his thrusting failed to get her to the pinnacle, in licking her clean I could take her the extra mile while reveling in the two lovers combined sex juices.

See, I’m out on the 3rd standard deviation. Hell, I’m deviant beyond any standard. I wouldn’t even have chimed in, but you have been so forthcoming (no pun intended) in answering my NSFW questions and it seems I am in your debt. Besides, I want you to rest assured that when some men say they really just love to have you cum, they jolly well mean it.

@ETpro Thanks for the contribution. Though you are not in my debt at all. I enjoyed answering those questions, I love just thinking about sex so any excuse is a good one. Nothing better then hearing oneself talk.

I find I agree with you that natural smells and fluid are arousing and stimulating quite on their own.

And suckling on a cock feeling it grow and surge in my mouth is a truly special moment. I am glad some find the clit, vagina and ass equally rewarding.