(It was bound to happen…)
Rick and I got married at the lake.
I wore a dress I’d picked up at a garage sale.
The day of the wedding, I stayed home, making a huge pot of baked beans and potato salad for the barbque (burgers) we were going to have for the reception…burgers and beer. Rick wasn’t allowed to see me, of course, so he and my son, Chris went out to set up tables and a canopy and stuff.
I had mentioned a couple of weeks earlier that I would like an arch, but gave that idea up. While at the lake my son spotted some thick, really pretty vines crawling up a tree. He pulled them down and created a beautiful arch! Rick’s daughter attached some pretty fake flowers to the arch. It was so sweet, so touching (he was 17 at the time.) He’d crawled about 20 feet up a tree and out on a limb to tie a long piece of the ivy to the center of the arch so it would stand up. (When I saw that, I looked up and up, then looked at Rick who said, “You DON’T want to know how he did that! If you recall, Chris was forever getting hurt!)
The love that was behind its creation makes me cry to this day.
Chris gave me away, and made a little speech…”I give this women on behalf of her father, Alfred Joseph Henson, who can’t be here today.” (My dad had died by then.) He wore a funky hat because my dad used to wear all different kinds of hats for different occasions. Sigh. Tears all around.
This was our honeymoon valley
This is our honeymoon suite
This is our honeymoon bed
This was our honeymoon boat.
Some of you wis.dmrs might recall this pic of me and my honeymoon dog sitting on my honeymoon bed in our honeymoon suite in our honeymoon valley (it’s the first real life pic of my I ever posted)
I worked to keep it less than $200 because we were poor because we owned our own business…a mower shop.
There were only a few glitches.
My granddaughter, who was 3 at the time, was supposed to be my flower girl. However, she was with her dad that weekend, and he didn’t bother to bring her out. He could have just dropped her off and left, but he didn’t.
Rick’s daughter, Gena, was all excited about the wedding and wanted to do all this stuff. I kept cautioning her to avoid spending money on a lot of fu fu stuff, but she went a little crazy anyway…and I had to pay for it all, whether I wanted it or not. .
Gena offered to make the cake. I assumed that was her wedding present to us because she never said anything about us paying her for it. A couple of days after the wedding though, she started harassing me to pay her $50 for it. I was a little taken aback. It was a beautiful cake, and worth $50, I’m sure, but I would never have paid $50 for a cake! I would have bought the fixings myself and made it for less than $10! So that frustrated me, but I scraped the money up and gave it to her.
I choose gold and maroon for my colors. I picked up a mid-calf length maroon skirt at Goodwill, and I bought some very wide (about 5”) trim to put around the bottom of it. It was really, really pretty trim, gold and green and maroon and kind of glittery. It was rather expensive too, but I figured since I was the bride, that was my splurge on me. I envisioned this sort of retro-hippy Woodstock kind of dress. Like wood sprite or something.
Gena sewed too, I didn’t, so I asked her to sew the trim on the dress. The day before my wedding she brought it to me. It turns out I hadn’t given her enough trim to go around the bottom so she went out and bought some different trim…it was really thin, maybe ½ inch gold trim. It looked more like ribbon than trim (In fact..it WAS ribbon. She used it on things like the wine glasses.) Her words were “I figured what the hell. It’s gold and it’s cheap!” NOW you wanna go CHEAP, Gena???!!! The skirt was SO UGLY! The narrow trim caused the hem to bunch up and…it looked like a clown dress! I was stunned. That night I told Rick how upset I was about it, but he said, “Gena worked hard on that Val! You can’t hurt her feelings and not wear it!”
So I started crying! I have NEVER been one to use womanly tears, but I REALLY cut loose that night! I had to get Rick on my side, or I’d never hear the end of how hard Gena had worked (doing stuff I didn’t want her to do!) and how rude it was of me to not wear the dress and yadda yadda yadda. Didn’t want Rick mad at me on our wedding day! So I bawled and bawled and bawled and bawled. Every time he started to say something in Gena’s defense, I just cried harder and harder and louder and louder until the dumbshit came to his damn senses and said, “Uh…it’s YOUR wedding day, Val! You wear whatever you want! You certainly don’t have to wear a dress that you hate! It’s YOUR day!”
So I quit crying. Boom. Just like that I quit crying and picked out another dress
I could see that Gena was miffed the next day, when I showed up in a different dress, but oh well.
That last glitch was…the beautiful arch that my son so lovingly made..? Yeah. It was poison ivy! Everyone who came to the wedding had poison ivy! For the next few days my guests would be walking around town and people would say, “Oh, itchy! You must have been at Rick and Val’s wedding!” My son had almost been literally ROLLING in it, and he got it bad, bad. His whole body swelled. His head looked like a pumpkin, the poor, poor kid. Had to go to the ER. Later he said it was worth it, though, when he saw my face, which just lit up when I saw the arch. I will never, ever forget that arch
That night we took the honeymoon boat out on the lake to just float around and look at the stars. But…I was really nervous. We were floating out there with no lights, and boats weren’t supposed to be on the lake after dark but you never knew (hell, WE were on the lake!) and I was afraid someone was going to run into us, so that didn’t go quite as planned.
Also…well, when I went to change from my wedding dress to my reception duds I went to a cluster of tall bushes down by the lake so my guests couldn’t see me. It was open to the lake but there were no boats in sight, and I figured it wouldn’t take more than a minute. Just as I dropped my dress and had on nothing but my bra and panties I happened to glance around to the lake behind me….and there was a boat full of KIDS, 20-somethings, quietly sitting there, watching me, grinning their heads off! SHIT! Where the hell did they come from? I never heard a motor! Oh well. I got my other clothes back on. The kids applauded and I bowed and went back to my party.
Another friend of ours took the pictures and even put them on a CD and created a slide show set to music. He didn’t charge us for it.
Our mechanic, Shannon, and his wife were there. Shannon had a TERRIBLE, terrible potty mouth, but he was a good kid. About 5 minutes after they left I got a phone call from him. He was all choked up, touched by the wedding. I could hear the trembling emotion in his voice as he said, “I just wanted to tell you congratulations and all that shit again, and it was a really nice fuckin’ wedding!” I cracked up!
I liked my wedding. It was very simple for what it was. But Lordy, I can’t BEGIN to imagine the womanly tears I would have had to shed had my wedding been more elaborate! I would have been totally dehydrated! One of the bridesmaids would have had to have held a saline bag hooked up to a saline IV drip in my arm.
The next day
Rick
My favorite pic
Other
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