NSFW Bathroom habits: Do you have difficulty going #2 in public restrooms, bathrooms with limited privacy, or anywhere other than your home bathroom?

You asked a vey similar question in April 2012;

http://www.fluther.com/142788/nsfw-possibly-are-you-fussy-about-where-you-go-to-the/

Didn’t you like our answers there?

@gailcalled: Are there no new Jellies that have joined in the past year and a half?

I hadn’t had the need to need to use a public facility thusly until recently. It was a closed stall, but I found I was a bit self-conscious about noises and possibly noxious odors. But when ya gotta, ya gotta. Of course I prefer the privacy of my home, but it isn’t always possible. Get over it.

I always wonder why they have public stalls with side walls that do not meet the floor so there is a gap there. Plus the front door part is the same. In those circumstances I do battle to pee! I just feel bathroom habits, noises etc. are private.

Nope. With courtesy flush technique I have no shame. I flush and drop. Covers most of the sound and it’s all natural anyways so I guess in that sense I don’t care.

Yep. Even when I’m staying at a hotel, if I’m sharing the room with a friend, I can’t go until they leave the room. I have a feeling this is more of a problem for women, for some reason. Most of the guys I’ve known well couldn’t care less about where they ‘leave their deposits’.

Since it is a fact that I do NOT defecate, nor ever emit foul odors…

I will endure constipation and/or impaction rather than shatter the illusion.

I definitely don’t prefer it, but I will do it if necessary. I find it difficult if the bathroom is silent and there’s someone right next to me. I prefer loud fans or some other noise that masks other noises…

Sorry man no can do!!!!

It only bothers me at work, where anyone else in the bathroom knows me. If I’m out in town and the bathroom is full of complete strangers, it doesn’t bother me.

@LornaLove the side walls do not meet the floor to facilitate cleaning. They can just mop right under the walls.

Nope. But, I know a lot of people who will wait until they are at home. The people closest to me don’t have trouble going per se in the public bathroom, but more about they won’t. Literally will leave an event early or want to leave a restaurant all of a sudden because they need to get home to go to the bathroom. It can be annoying. Sometimes racing home because they need to go to the bathroom. Not being able to go is different, and probably is just frustrating for the person experiencing it, but doesn’t cause them to rush home, rather they just feel constipated or bloated I would assume.

Yes, I have difficulty. There is nothing like the comfort of the home pot. I will hold it until I am back at home base. All camping trips for me are limited to 60 hours.
I even reduce my food intake to make the wait easier.

@LuckyGuy is an example of what I am talking about in my answer.

@JLeslie. I tell no one that I have planned ahead in such a manner. I keep the secret to myself. Besides, like @Blueroses (and Adriana Lima), I only deposit a single, rose scented, heart shaped pellet when nature makes its weekly call.

I have a true story along these lines. Years ago after my surgery I had the bladder capacity of a gnat and had to stop at every bathroom I passed. I also had the ‘pleasure’ of needing to pack a pee pad over my package. That meant I had to go into a stall to urinate and the process took much longer than normal. One evening I went into a stall at a highway rest stop that had automatic motion sensing lighting to save energy. The light came on when I walked into the bathroom and went into the stall.
I stood in from of the toilet, dropped my pants around my ankles and began draining while holding the replacement pad in my other hand. That’s when the lights timed out leaving me in total darkness while trying to make sure all the drops go into the toilet and not my open pants.

I’ll bet turning off that light saved 1/10 of a cent.

@LuckyGuy Welcome to what it is like to be a girl. We are always in a stall, and every month we deal with maybe needing to find the tampon or pad in our purse. If it is a pad we need to line it up correctly on our underwear. Which by the way you can hear the adhesive if you need to pull it off your underwear and restick. You can’t “hold” your menstruation. We always have to think about or worry about how clean the seat is going to be, or the toilet in general. I of course have empathy for your specific situation, because to add to it all you had been through a scary time and your body was not functioning normally.

Yep. Having IBS doesn’t help either. (Thanks, insane stress of grad school.)

I will wake up 3–4 hours before I have to be anywhere, just so that I am assured of being able to take care of my business at home. I don’t like doing it in public bathrooms because I feel rushed (especially if there is only one bathroom, or just a single stall in the men’s room).

Nope, not an issue for me and I’m grateful for that. I think it comes from traveling as a kid. You go in whatever bathroom is handy at the time. I know one person who has an extremely difficult time with this, especially when traveling. I can’t imagine going through that!

I usually don’t have to go in public. I guess my mind is on other things. I definitely have, though, and it definitely doesn’t feel as comfortable as home, especially if you can hear a pin drop.
Worst of all are stalls with automatic flushers. I try to avoid those at all costs. You won’t believe how many times they’ve flushed while I was still doing business. It scares the shit out of me! for better or for worse.

Yes, but if I have to (say at a public restroom), I’ll flush as I go (quickly). Thus, all that you’ll hear is the flushing sound and then I scoot out of the restroom quickly.

@dxs: I hate those! I always have this fear that I’m going to drop something in the toilet that’s not supposed to be there and it will flush and be gone before I can do anything! dropping my wallet in the toilet is one of my super powers.

I try not to go for a poo anywhere but my own home. I hate going in public/work toilets and will try my best to hold it until I get home, sometimes this is not possible so I will make sure I put a lot of toilet paper down first so the noise of it hitting the water is muffled! I used to struggle with going in hotels if I was staying somewhere with my boyfriend but after I made myself ill by holding it in for five days I will now try to make sure I go (although I still have to get him to turen the TV up loud so he won’t hear me!!)

Ediot: I am definitely going to try this flush and drop technique that some of you are talking about. Never thought about it before!

No, I have no problem with this. Everybody poops, for Pete’s sake… why endure discomfort in order to pretend otherwise?

@glacial: It’s a psychological thing, which is not always dictated by logic.

Nah, shit happens.

@jca I hear you, it’s just that for me, the act seems really mundane. I don’t mean to imply that everyone should feel the same way about it – but I don’t really understand why some people invest concern over it, and I have trouble remembering (say, while in a bathroom stall) that others might tie it to modesty or anxiety or what have you.

No. Eating lower on the food chain makes defecating quick, quiet and odorless most of the time. And I still find the coy language of “going #2” very odd, coming from an adult..

I hate it. I will not go at work. If I stay in a hotel, then obviously I will go then, but other than that, I refuse to use public toilets.
At my work, we are all women, and at least 3 of them go on a daily basis here. Personally, I think it is quite dirty.

@Headhurts – Is it the women, the bathroom or the act of going that you find dirty?

Just going to the toilet and not caring about it. I could never go apart from going in my own home. Just personal hygiene I guess.

@gailcalled: I don’t use ”#2” in my every day language. However, I used it in my Q as I did not want to use “defecating” and I felt that anything descriptive (poo, pooh, shit, doody) might get the Q sent back for editing (as sexual descriptions can and have) so I stuck with ”#2.” You will see that everyone seems to know what ”#2” means.

Just curious, all of you who hold it because you don’t want to do it in a public bathroom was this taught to you by your parents? Or, did you come up with it yourself? I know at least a few of the particular people I know were told by their parents to wait until they got home. It was true for urinating too even, if they could manage to wait.

To be clear, I am not talking about people who simply psychologically can’t make it happen.

I think for some, you really don’t want to have other people smell your shit or hear bathroom noises, then have to face them when you walk out of the stall to wash your hands. It’s embarrassing.

Which is why I use the flush while I poop method. Any odor is swept away and all that you hear is the flushing sound. If no one is in the restroom or it’s a one stall bathroom, like at a gas station bathroom (with a lock on the door) I don’t give a shit (haha) and will be a little more relaxed.

@Mama_Cakes I just don’t even make eye contact with anybody afterward; solves my problem :)

@Mama_Cakes But… the backsplash from the flush… eww.

Could be a little tmi, but my partner and I have a method that we use after we pooh. Makes things all nice and tidy. If you’re at home (or anyone else’s home) and you do the deed, take a wad of toilet paper, wet it under the sink and wipe again. Makes for a cleaner bum!
My partner and I were out drinking with a few friends one night and one of the guys in the group brought up this method.

It is now referred to as the P*** W** method (you know damn well that I’m not going to type his full name. Could you imagine the Google search? :)).

And, that is why the rest of the world uses bidets.

I consider the Japanese high end washlet toilet seats one of the best things ever invented. They draw the dirty air out from a slot at the hinged side of the seat – very close to the source. It requires very little air draw to do an excellent job. It also prevents the ‘dirty molecules’ from passing up all around you on their way to the ceiling vent.
(Not that my molecules are dirty.)

In order of preference:
– at home, alone
– in public, alone
– at home, with family*
– in public, with family*
– in public, with strangers*
– in public, with friends*
– at home, with friends*
– at work, alone
– at work, with coworkers*
– holding it until I get home
– using a port-a-potty

* within earshot

I can honestly say I’ve never had a bowel movement in a public restroom with multiple stalls. And I have no plans to. I prefer the privacy of my own bathroom.

I don’t get the choice. I have to move my bowels upwards of 4 times a day because of my surgeries. I live in college dorms and even “my” bathroom is kind of public.

Also because of my surgeries my BMs are pretty loud. TMI I guess but you asked. I had a pretty bad experience living with some judgemental girls and am pretty self conscious now because of this. Always worry people will think I’m a freak if they overhear things. Which I guess I kind of am.

I can’t really go in a public bathroom unless it clears out. I even have problems using the one in my apartment if I’m not home alone. Sound travels through our thin walls. Sometimes I will walk to a nearby public bathroom that tends to be secluded. I know that sounds pathetic but it’s kind of just a thing.

Having a digestive disease doesn’t really make you feel good about your body.

I don’t like it, I prefer my privacy. But fuck sometimes, you just gotta answer the call.

GHOSTBUSTERS, doo doo doo doo doo doo doo doo, doodoo doodoo doo, bitches.