Friendships blew up into drama. Did I handle this okay?

That’s horrible and disgusting. Report to the police. It’s vandalism and cyberbullying. They sent abusive messages? That’s something to report as well. For now, I would suggest either a) ignoring them and pretending they’re not in your life or b) going up to them and saying what you think of them and what they’re doing to you is not appropriate. i would choose b, but your choice. report to the police asap. good luck, and i hope things get better.

Report to police. If they continue to message you, and you have told them to stop, it is now harassment and you can go to any court and file a restraining order suit.

Just ignore for the mean time.

I don’t think I can go to the police because I have absolutely no evidence it was them but I have a huge hunch.

I live in a converted attic and the other tenants are all older and peaceful and nice. I pissed off someone down the street with my bad parking job a few months ago, but that was months ago and they don’t know where I live, let alone my name.

I’ve already reported them to FB so I hope they get a slap on the wrist at least.

The messages were very abusive. Full of obscenities. The girl is a violent little harlot. She wants to meet us in person and “talk it out” but it’s clear she would probably assault me.

God, you would think that I had murdered their mother or something, by the way they are acting.

No, go to the police and print out the abusive messages. Hopefully you saved them! If not, ohhh. Go meet her in a PUBLIC place, record what she says, and turn it in if she assaults you.

I have about half of them. They were fb messages. Most of then we’re addressed just to me. I blocked them first and they became enraged.

What did the abusive messages say?

Well, aside from berating me for every aspect of myself and calling me all sorts of horrible obscenities… They wanted to meet to talk about this in person. Then the girl said that if I “continued” this (continue what?) that she would take me on and take me out.

What’s weird is that neither my boyfriend or I have responded to them after I sent that message saying bye. Not one word. we aren’t delusional idiots like they are.

Just follow my steps, and turn the messages in. It’ll be fine(:

I am going to look into this, yes.

I am half considering maybe, if the police won’t respond, me unblocking one of them temporarily and sending a small message saying “We know you wrecked our mailbox. We know what you did. Don’t ever contact us again or come to see us in person or we’ll call the police because we’ve already started a harassment file on you. Bye.”

Even if it’s not true, they’ll probably piss in their pants over the it.

If she threatened to “take you out” then that is a homicidal threat. That is worth reporting to the police.

I never thought of it like that…

Boy I’m glad I have you guys.

Ignore! Well done for getting rid of the good-for-nothing wastes of space! You don’t need toxic people like that in your life. Do what the jellies above say and good riddance!

I think you handled it fine but it’s time to report it to the police. Vandalism and threats of violence are sufficient. Save copies of all the messages they send you, and do not respond at all – that will harm your defense if the case goes further.

I have not responded at all to them. The last thing I said to them was the message that set them off.

My reason for not speaking was because I believe now that they are lowly scum and not worth my attention. I had no idea that this may help me against them.

Yes, definitely do not respond further to them in any way whatsoever. It just encourages them further and will make you guys look bad. It takes two to fight. If you refuse to fight, verbally or otherwise, and they persist then the harassment is clear.

Are you able to buy a small camera to connect to your computer and aim out your window to your driveway (particularly your cars)? This could come in very handy.

Definitely make a police report. Even if they don’t do anything this time, it gets it on the record.

Hopefully if they continue to get no response from you they’ll get bored and quit.

If they keep on, document each incident to the police.

With “friends” like this, who needs enemies? They are being totally out of line. Classless jerks.

We have off street parking, we don’t park in the driveway. So they wouldn’t know where our cars are but they would know where we live. And we are in the attic (attic apartment) so it’s not like we can see easily.

I am going to look into what I can do. I may send a formal-sounding cease and desist letter. They are stupid enough that it would work.

The good news is that my boyfriend and I are moving in 2 weeks. It’s to a place a few minutes away, a bigger place. I think they know we are moving but we never told them where, and they won’t be able to find out.

You sent a break-up email, which can be perceived by them as you wanting the last word, or that you think you are better than them, or their reaction could be they don’t handle rejection well. Basically, you do think you are better than them at this point I would assume, that you have made better more productive choices in your life. Don’t take that the wrong way, they sound like they are on a destructive path, and so they have picked up on how you view them. They also probably know themselves that they are screwing up their lives, so you pointing out the negatives of themselves directly or indirectly got a rise out of them. They know what you are thinking even if you did not actually write the specific words.

I think you should call the police and report it.

I would just ignore them. Document everything so far – keep copies of the messages, take dated pictures of your mailbox, etc. in case things should escalate… but if you only just sent the goodbye message a couple of days ago, there’s a good chance that if you don’t respond at all, they’ll be forced to lose interest, especially if you are about to move. Giving them any attention will just teach them that their tantrums are having an effect, which is what they want.

Consider moving somewhere they don’t know about.

I agree with @glacial. Document, but aside from that do nothing. Anything you do now will only escalate what they are perceiving to be a “war.” Don’t go there with them. You signed your message “Peace,” now walk that path.

I agree with everyone else. Save the messages in order to create a case. They both have showed their true colors it appears. No reasonable grown up adult/s behave in such a manner regardless of how they feel.

I have learned to separate by silence. I have also had obnoxious characters in my life that I no longer wanted around. I simply just did not respond to their messages or texts. (Rather than tell them why, which could seem like an invitation to dialogue or debate).

It may not do any good, but it can’t hurt to tell them that if they continue their behavior that you are going to report them to the police. It saves a lot of hassle if they can be intimidated that way.

These people are just proving that your judgment was correct. Do take the matter to the police and then do what the police suggest. Don’t have any further words with these nasty people, much as you might want to, just to try to get rid of them. Let it be a police matter.

Been there, done that, and you can’t feel guilty if you acted mature about it and they didn’t. My hubs and I have met people at our front door or in the drive, and asked them to leave and not come back for various reasons.

You and your family are your responsbility and as several mentioned, resort to calling the cops to protect yourself, they sound ignorant. Why not a message back to you, saying “May I ask what exactly we did that ruined our friendship?”, then you could respond with the things you told us. Remember, living well is the best revenge! :)

Yep I’m just keeping the messages for now. Still haven’t had any words with them, outside of that “break up” message. They tried to send something (a message) to my phone but the blocker caught it.

I definitely feel that I am better than them. They accused me of that after my break up message and I smiled when I read them say that. They are violent white trash, plain and simple. Of course my boyfriend and I are classier than that.

I think my silence is driving them crazy and that’s why this is happenin. Well if they continue, the police can deal with them personally.

Update:

No further tries for contact from their side. My boyfriend and I have blocked both of them on FB and on our phones. They are too stupid for email and don’t use it so they don’t know ours and can’t contact us.

We are moving in 10 days to a new apartment that they know nothing about. The new landlady is a real bulldog and I’ve seen her freak out at non-tenants inquiring where certain people live. She says it’s none of their business and tells them to leave the area.

I am still friends with a friend of theirs who keeps me updated on the stuff they are saying. They are saying nothing about us but their lives are really going downhill now and the guy is actually really upset because he didn’t have any friends outside of us and is now complaining about being isolated.

I’m done with it. They can both fall into a cesspool for all I care. They are no longer any of my concern.