Someone confessed to me. What do I do?

Confessed what?

Confessed that he liked me. I should have been more clear, sorry!

scratch that, he said ‘love’, which I don’t take lightly.

(Here’s a hint, along with a welcome: you have about 10 minutes, or until the red ‘Edit this response’ link goes away, to change a post. That way you can revise your answers instead of posting several comments in a row.)

(Thank you! I fixed it! I’m new to this site!)

Love on the text… You crazy kids.

How well do you know him? To start talking love like this I would wonder if he is thinking with parts of his anatomy other than his brain.
It sounds like you are pretty drenched in hormones too. Just go cautious. The drug scene can take your life in a completely different direction. I know you don’t smoke weed now, but hang with him a while and 95% chance you will. For me anyway, it took my life in a direction that I regret. I didn’t finish college, I didn’t care, and my morale compass went out of whack for years after I quit. Try to get your head in control here and not your hormones.

(Yes, I know. That’s why I said welcome!)

It sounds as though there are a lot of negatives in this possible relationship. As in things you do not like, he smokes weed, he is far away and so on. Just because he confessed feelings for you does not mean you have to feel the same. Just be honest, say you are surprised as you had no idea. Before you reply though, think about if this is a guy you would choose. Or has he chosen you?

My advice is to date one of your friends that asked you out. They are nearby, and you already know you get along with them. Your parents probably don’t object to them, since they are already in your life.
Plus, they aren’t Oakland/ghetto.

I’m from Oakland

@filmfann: Yes, but are you ghetto?

I agree with @filmfann. Current friends can become some of the best significant others.

I’d let the texting guy pass you by. Too many potholes.

First of all, consider that what he is saying is exaggeration in an attempt to attract you. But the way you describe it, it is something he can’t yet have reached because he hasn’t been around you enough. And, you are not in the same mental or emotional space as he is, because he has behaviors you don’t like, and you have other objections.

Don’t let yourself be manipulated into something against your own feelings merely because he said something in a text.

Also, you are seeing someone but you are still lonely? I know that happens a lot, but the way to work on it is to see if you can feel less lonely with the one you are dating now. What do you need from him to feel connected in a more general way? Ask yourself what would the other guy give you to get rid of those feelings? I doubt he could, and when that fails you’ll feel even more lonely.

The best way to not feel lonely is to try to be friends with others and make them feel less lonely. Everybody feels that way at times, and the brightest lights in our lives are those that reach out to us. Be a light to someone else, boy or girl, and you’ll wake up one day knowing you are loved and value.

p.s., this is not a quick fix, it can take some people years, but the least step in a new direction can make a big change in how you feel.

“I just want someone who can cuddle with me and play video games and watch anime. ”
I think you may want to rethink your priorities for a relationship? Pretty meager requirements that you stated? You may have better results IF you understand yourself better>
Your criteria could fit any pervert out there! Write out exactly what the ideal person would look like,interests,values,caree goals etc At least this will give you an idea of whom you wish to really be with.
Being alone and being lonely are two differnt things. Get a passionate hobby to absorb your time and also meet people with same intests and passions as you. Out of those interests you will very well have your pick of people that are in tune with your ideal.
Find yourself first, then others to fill the void.

A ghetto pot smoker who lives an hour away isn’t going to give you a whole lot of cuddling and anime time.

Hang out with your friends. Spend time with people who you enjoy spending time with. The boyfriend thing will take care of itself.

Gotta go with @Seek_Kolinahr on this one. Stop wasting your time fretting.

It sounds like you can do much better. If you’re going off to school, you might be better off being single and enjoying all of the new people you’ll meet there. Get hooked up with a gaming group on campus or an anime group, or one related to your major. Trust me, your first few months of college will be a whirlwind of meeting new and interesting people.