Do you have only one soulmate?

I think there is only one (like the Highlander – lol)

That is the person that feels like the other half of your soul.

At a time.
As we age we enter into different needs etc so locating your soul mate at each given time
equates to a happier life.
Some are fortunate to find the one that they need and can learn from right from the start.
I guess that is fate?

No, not just one. Bu there are not a tremendous amount of people that mesh with you in a way that it seems they are the only ones.

I met a woman 7 years ago, and in many ways we are a great joy to each other. But we are not together for a number of reasons, some having to do with geography. And I have met a woman who is just as compatible with me, we seem to be almost laughing together before one of us finishes a sentence, we “get” each other to our very core. But she is coming out of a bad relationship and not quite ready to be in a committed relationship yet.

If the concept of soul-mates were true, both people would feel that way and would feel the need to make it a permanent relationship. But it is usually only one of the two that feels that until it goes to the level of commitment. And those would never fall apart.

And what if you never meet your soul-mate? That means the universe is out to make your life miserable? I doubt that.

Several.

No – I feel there may be many people with whom you can mesh and have a fulfilling life.

No, I don’t believe in soul mates. The idea seems a bit religious, in fact – not that there’s anything wrong with that. If one doesn’t believe there is a God that puts one specific person on Earth for you and makes certain you cross paths (fate, destiny, whatever), then why would one believe that there’s only one other person out there for you?

The idea of “the one” is a bit ridiculous to me. An idea gobbled up by hopeless romantics that sit in their rooms dreaming about their Prince Charming coming to sweep them off their feet. Give me a break. These are the same people that you can truly someone at first sight – someone you don’t even know. Pish!

There are people you’re compatible with and people you’re not compatible with. Hopefully, we’re lucky enough to find and fall in love with someone we are compatible with. I think the idea of soul mates can sabotage perfectly good relationships. Perhaps this is a reason some of us don’t fight for our marriages and, instead, opt for divorce at the first sign of trouble because, dammit, if you were soul mates, your relationship would be easy as pie!

Relationships aren’t perfect. Fate has nothing to do with it. Committing to someone else for life isn’t about destiny. It’s about a healthy combination of love, dedication, and hard work.

I don’t identify with the notion of a soulmate, just some random made up word that has no meaning or bearing on any relationship i’ve ever had.
I adore my wife, my kids, my siblings & of course my mother, but that’s love, pure & simple.

Soul Man – Yes! Soul mate – No.

I feel good, duh, duh, duhduh, duhduh, duh…

You’re my soul mate, @ucme!

Dawwwww, you’re just saying that.

I strongly believe there are many people in this world that could make me happy forever. I’ve already met a few of them. I don’t know how a person finally chooses one, but I’m not worrying myself over that yet.

No, I believe that two souls can sync. with each other at any point if conditions are right for both.

If we have only one, I’m in trouble, because the one I love is not for me…sigh!

There are numerous people with whom one can be highly compatible. There are also numerous people with whom one can share physical ‘chemistry’. The tricky part is finding one of those with whom you have both compatibility and attraction at a time and place where both are ready, willing and able to build a romantic partnership.

@ucme Actually, the idea is many thousands of years old. A Bashert, a soulmate, foreordained or predestined by God in Judaism. just a little trivia for you.

I think we’re all expendable. You may be filling that roll for someone, but somebody else could easily be in your position. And I think that’s beautiful, knowing that every time you have a breakup, it isn’t the end of your love life. There are others, and you will be okay.
If there was only one person for everyone then even one person getting married to the wrong person would cause a chain reaction and eventually no one would find ther soul mate ever again.

There are seven billion people in the world. If you only have one “soul mate”, what are the odds that person just happened to get plopped into your neighborhood?

Nah. We just have to find someone who can put up with us.

How can I have a soul mate when I don’t believe in a soul? Compatibility is as far as I’ll go.

@JLeslie It’s still random made up crap regardless of the origin/longevity of the word.
I largely agree with Seek’s view, have we really met & hitched up with the person that was meant for us in our tiny puddle of the world? Or is there a person living out their life who we’ll never meet that actually, may have suited us better? We’ll never know, which is probably just as well.

@ucme Sure, I agree it is made up. I was just saying it isn’t necessarily a modern idea. The Jews did a lot of matchmaking, which probably contradicts the whole thing. The matchmaker or the parents of the children being match I don’t think were considering if they were soulmates. They looked at more tangible things to match up young people in marriage.

@Seek_Kolinahr I’m not convinced of that anymore. I used to say it was which a-hole could put up with which beeyotch.

After a few serious relationships, I realized that for me, a person who doesn’t get close to very many, who doesn’t trust a lot, there just aren’t that many people that I relate to that also relate to me, on every level.

It’s like being with a twin soul, who is the other part of you, no thinking about it, just pure harmony. It’s much more than ‘putting up’ with someone’s crap or something like that, in fact, it’s so wonderful that I hope everyone gets the opportunity to be in sync with someone like that at least once in their lives.

@KNOWITALL There’s a Gaelic term of endearment – “Mo anam cara” – “My soul friend”. I think that’s more accurate to my thought than the term “soul mate” – which I believe comes from the old Greek myth that humans once had two heads and eight limbs. The Gods were jealous of the humans’ happiness, so he split them into two, and the people had to spend their lives looking for the other halves of their bodies.

I think we, instead of searching for our missing pieces, are looking for someone who complements us, that we get along with, that (as I said before) we can put up with. For example, there are a lot of people who would be extraordinarily jealous at the amount of time my husband spends with his band, and there are people who would not tolerate my emotional swings and eccentricities. So Mitch and I complement each other.

Could I find someone who I get along with better? Probably. Maybe an atheist activist without my husband’s mildly racist tendencies. But, I actually enjoy verbally bitch-slapping reality into him every once in a while. And he admits he’s learned from me, and I’ve learned from him, too. If you think I have marathon debates on here, you should hear our late-night babblefests on politics or religion or science.

My best guy friend now is in many ways my emotional soul mate even though we are not romantically involved. He gets my strengths and weaknesses in ways my Ex never did and just listens. I am discovering there are many ways to get the love we need and many people – including my numerous women friends – to get it from.

@Seek_Kolinahr That sounds fun, my husband won’t argue with me, he just tells me that varying opinions are what makes the world go round, I’m a little jealous- lol

My husband and I always say we should never split up because no one else would ever put up with our shit. Honestly, though, I think he’d have an easier time finding someone new than I would. I’m hard to deal with at times, and it took a few years to teach him how to do it. I’m not willing to start over with a new guy.

@livelaughlove21 Nice, but there is always someone willing to put up with your s—t, honey, men will go through a lot for a nice piece, especially one who is pretty and has a career. :)

Hey how did your trial presentation go, did you rock it out as we thought you would?

We do have our occasional arguments, but they don’t last long, for two primary reasons.
1. It feels like i’m slapping my face off a trampoline covered in trifle.
2. She always & I do mean always has to have the final word.

@KNOWITALL I sure did! The agents were gushing about how perfect it was and how they couldn’t tell I was nervous. Even the judge said I did a great job. I was pretty excited about it. :) Thanks for asking!

The concept of a soulmate has never rung true to me, it’s a big world out there.

I didn’t believe in the idea of a soulmate for me, until I found mine. He totally gets me in a way no one ever has. We both give each other strength when needed and total support no matter what. He and I have a connection that runs so deep, we can feel each other’s soul next to one another even when we aren’t together. I’ve never felt that with anyone before. My soulmate and I have a synch with each other where we can be thinking of one another at the exact same moment. It’s a completeness I’ve never felt. He and I can share silence together and be comfortable. We both share simple pleasures together…a note, a song, nature scenes, small
gestures….all of which are treasures that we keep close to our heart.

I believe in compatibility.