Your partner hates her job/boss/co-workers, how do you help her deal with her anger?

Find a new job?

You don’t help her deal with her anger, you help her deal with her situation.

You can listen to her and support her trying to resolve things at work. Or support her efforts at finding a new job. And talk to her about what is going on that has her in such a pickle. But it is a matter of you supporting her emotionally while she resolves it herself.

Ohhh, how do you help her. My mistake.

Supporting her and listening to her is really all you can do. But I still think she should consider looking for a new position if she’s that unhappy.

Try and put yourself in her situation, sympathise and listen. Give her genuine, honest advice. If you make her time outside work the best it can be, like some romance, treats, understanding and things you both like to do, hopefully she’ll realise that she has a great life outside work and this will help her to deal with the rubbish of the day.

Why does she have so much hatred and anger?

I was in a similar situation 2 years ago. I felt like I was reliving the movie “The Devil Wears Prada” LITERALLY. It was really stressful and I was about to quit until I found out the company was actually going to close in a couple of months and decided to stick it out.

What helped me was just being able to talk to someone else about what went on at work (complaining and wining). And it would of helped if my home life was a little less stressful. And going out and doing things after work to take my mind off work was very helpful.

I would also suggest that she try to find a way to deal with the situation. That continual stress is going to make her sick if the doesn’t find a way to resolve the issue.

The two of you could take up boxing or running or swimming and turn the mental anger into energy that can be released aggressively.

My partner is in this same position with me. I hate my job and co workers. Just make her feel like there is someone on her side. Show her love and tell her you’ll be waiting for her to come home. Give her something to think about during her crap day, a reason to get through and to come home.

As a drunken Calamity Jane said to a discouraged preacher in ‘Deadwood’:

“Welcome to the fuckin’ Club of The Rest of Us”....

I went through this with Jon when he was working at the ranch. The last year at that place was hell for him. I let him vent when he needed to and I tried to not take any of his emotions personally. I did my best to make his life easier when he was at home. That’s all I could really do. He eventually found a new job because the stress was too much for him.

Let’s play with a couple of stereotypes. The standard female response is to let the person vent, listen with compassion, provide a crying shoulder, and say some soothing, supportive words (help the individual cope with the situation). A man’s more likely to try to push the person into action – talk about ways to leave the bad situation and move forward toward something better (help the individual change the situation).

Maybe the real answer is somewhere in-between – provide buckets of support and sympathy, but urge the person to take some real steps and make his/her life better.

Such life changes can be very difficult to undertake. When somebody’s beaten-down and depressed by circumstances, there’s a sense of drowning while unable to swim for the shore. A toxic environment can anyone feel worthless, and the idea of leaving, and starting over again elsewhere, might be overwhelming.

In my house this would be dealt with by a massive job search effort.

Been there done that, allow her to quit and find a new job.

I can relate @Mama_Cakes. My fiance is in the same situation. He is so stressed out right now.
The best thing that you can do is just be there for her. Listen when she needs to vent. Encourage her to look for a new job. Do little things for her that show her that you care. Just let her know that you’re in her corner.

In addition to all of the above, I buy him beer.