Women: How did you find your "big girl voice" in the workplace?
I’m a 24 year old young professional recently returned to NYC from a South American hiatus to start my dream job. I love it! Aaaand I’m pretty good at it if I say so myself. However, I have one small problem.
Sometimes I tend to be a little shy, particularly around my bosses whom I admire and respect. Our workplace is pretty egalitarian with a laid back attitude but I’m in serious newbie mode and am always afraid of stepping on toes. (As I should be while still on three months probation.)
How do I become more confident and learn to speak up more? Do you have any secrets? Is it something you wear or something you practice that helps you be more assertive (not aggressive) at work? I love this job and really want to do my best but it’s embarrassing when my boss has to remind me to “speak up, damnit!” :p
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Basically, it comes with experience. You should be proud that your boss seeks your input. That is a very good sign.
Practice planning to say at least one thing at each meeting.
For the first few months I think it is good to be in observation mode, take it all in. How the company works, learning the business. But, if your opinion is asked for definitely give it if you have one. If you were hired to have an opinion and they seek change for the better, then that is part of your job. Not speaking up could mean you aren’t a good fit and don’t meet the qualifications. You don’t have to speak up at every turn, but if you have been totally silent that is a negative also. They only get to know that brain in your head if you tell them what is going on in there.
As a side note: I am so happy to here your adjustment back to the states is going so well! I know the last few months have been trying, so it’s great to hear good news.
Practice speaking well when you are not under pressure; which means in any casual interchange. Keep your voice modulated, your sentences short and your information accurate.
Or have your bf or a friend ask you similar questions in a practice session.
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Well, you have to be careful with that, it’s still a man’s world, at least in my area. I am still subject to my bosses whims, and I’ve had three in ten years, so I keep my head down and let my work speak for my value. I’m not scared and I do talk of course, but he is my boss and I treat him as such. It’s always intimidating knowing this person could fire me if he doesn’t like me. So I guess if you find out let me know, too.
I just got a job in a private school… mostly, I stick to the people that I like, and the other people I just ‘tolerate.’ I don’t really speak up at meetings or anything like that but that’s because I’m less of a ‘team player’ than some people.. I wouldn’t worry about this at all! Congratulations on your job. Continue to do what you do and don’t worry about the others. As long as you are satisfied with your work, that’s all that matters.
^^^ OP says “It’s embarrassing when my boss has to remind me to “ speak up, damnit! ”
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Hey guys, it’s getting much better and I’m getting more confident every day. I’ve gotten great feedback from my bosses and coworkers and am really “owning” my new position.
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