Need a place to go ASAP?
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August 23rd, 2013
My boyfriend’s parents are coming home a lot earlier then they were originally going to. He needs to be out either the day they come back or within the next couple of days, as they don’t want him there and he wasn’t even supposed to be there while they went on vacation. Neither of us have enough money for a hotel and he won’t go to a shelter because of a past experience there. I’ve been trying to secure an apartment, which a few of you know already, but I’m still having a hard time finding ones. We have friends but none that are willing to let him board there for even a few days. He’s looking for places to go, I’m doing everything I can on my end, but we’re really at a loss. Any ideas?
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Any Youth Hostels? Here we have Backpackers Hostel. Is there anyting line that? Good luck.
@ETpro the closest we have is a homeless shelter. he’s 25 so he doesn’t qualify as a youth anymore, anyway, I don’t think. thank you!
Go to the nearest old folks home and volunteer to be the night attendant.
Here’s another one; go to an all night laundry and offer to help people with their laundry.
Look at the YMCA. I stayed at one for a week when I first came to town. You can rent rooms by the week and it was cheap.
If he doesn’t have a drug or alcohol problem maybe he can stay with a friend? FB your friends and see if anyone has space for a few days.
If he has an addiction, run.
Does he have a car? He can sleep in a car if he has to, whether his own or a friend’s.
@LuckyGuy No, he doesn’t do drugs or drink. My friends don’t exactly like him, so they won’t help. Plus, most live at home with parents themselves, so he can’t stay. There’s one person he can ask but they’re most likely going to say no. I’ll see what I can find at the YMCA but they dont’ seem to do housing like that anymore. At least, the one by me doesn’t.
@FutureMemory no, he doesn’t. no license either. he lived in NYC most of his life and Albany here, so he’s never needed to really drive. as for friends…he doesn’t have many of them, let laone any close enough to allow that. they probably don’t have cars either…
Sounds like he needs to convince someone he knows to let him crash. He might have to beg. If he can’t or won’t do that, he’ll have to bite the bullet and try his luck at a shelter, regardless of whatever bad experience he’s had there in the past. The only other options are trying to find a safe place to sleep outdoors, like someone’s back yard or a park, or maybe get himself arrested so he can sleep in a jail cell.
None of your friends like him and he has no friends that will put him up, just for a very short time? It sounds like there’s more to this story…...
@jca I wonder too, if there is more to the story, if I read the OP correctly his own parents don’t get along with him either.
Camping in a state park? But someone would have to drive him there.
WOW! sounds like a great catch! His parents dont like him, Your friends dont like him. YOU better re-think the situation you have put yourself in!
@futurememory he isn’t above begging. He’s petrified of police though so he wont get himself arrested. i wouldnt reccommend doing so in nyc anyway ^^”
@jca @dabbler @blueknight73 with his parents, they’re abusive (by which i mean emotionally now and physically when he was a kid. He has scars) so he fights back and they don’t like that. That’s basically the gist of it with them. I went to his place once and his mom started screaming at him the moment he walked in (in soanish so idk what was said. Something about having people over, i understood that much). A for my friends, its cuz of what happened to him earlier this year. It really shook him up and messed him up. I dont think he’s over it yet
@janbb he doesnt know anyone that drives and people on my side of things are all upstate
Maybes look up couch surfing on the Internet although that’s usually for travelers
Do you have a couple hundred dollars between the two of you? Jump on Craigslist- even place an ad describing what you need. I found a place in 15 minutes this way when I needed one.
I thought you said you guys lived in Albany? I thought that was a small town, like 100k population or so?
@janbb i’ve never heard of doing that before. Well, of couch surfing, but never online
@futurememory its where we want to move too. He’s staying with his parents in nyc right now since they are out of town until tomorrow. Albany’s a city. I’m not sure on population though
@Kairi I’m pretty sure that’s the way people find where to stay. How else would they if they are going to a foreign place?
@janbb uh…I assumed hotels…? ^^”
@Kairi Of course there are hotels. I was specifically speaking to your question about how people find places to couch surf. Maybe it is not a term you are familiar with.
In any case, I hope your boyfriend has solved his problem since there didn’t seem to be many viable options.
@janbb the only people i know that have couch surfed are people staying with friends. My boyfriend used to do it before I met him, when he was a teenager. I just didn’t know you could actually post online about it.
A realtor contacted me somehow earlier today, actually, so there’s hope.
Note about youth hostels: Many of them in the USA don’t actually care how old you are.
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