Have you ever been with a loved one when they died?

No. I got there about 20 minutes later.

My mother passed away about an hour after the gathered family left her bedside at 1:00 in the morning, and my brother and my niece took the first watch. My niece was holding her hand when she died. My niece said it was an awesome privilege to be the one beside her and bear witness to the moment.

I know some people do not want to be there when a particular loved one dies. As for my mom, I most certainly do. And I hope I am holding her or her hand when she does. She gave me life. She was there when I was born into this world. I want to be there with her when she moves on from this world. Of course there is no way I can guarantee that. But I hope it happens that way

Yes I have, my father passed away due to renal failure a few years ago .He declined dialysis from the hospital after three days. as per his wishes we brought him home on a Friday with hospice and he was gone by Sunday morning.it is for the best when a loved one is relieved from their suffering.

Yes… I messed up my grandfathers insulin dose in 1995, and he died in front of me and the homecare aide.

@talljasperman I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine your pain. I tried to save one and failed, and that’s haunted me. We are all human. Things happen. We do our best.
I’ve done it both ways and there is no way to make it better.

yes. my husband.

No – never.

Yes. It was my Grandfather. It lasted a week and it was horrible.

I wish you only the best.

No. My father, my grandmother, and my uncle all died shortly after I visited them for the night. They were all very ill and in hospice – so were were expecting them to go soon.

Yes, my father. It was very peaceful. One moment, he was breathing softly; the next moment, he was no longer breathing.

I was at my dad’s side when he passed away from colon cancer. The hospice nurse was at our house, and told us that he should have passed away a week earlier but that he was holding on for us. The nurse told my mom to tell my dad it that it was ok to pass on, and that we’ll all be ok. Once my mother told my dad this he finally passed on, with an odd smile on his face.

My grandmother had Alzheimers for many years and I was taking care of her fulltime (as much as I could) while working many hours at my job. She passed away quietly at the hospital, she held my hand tightly when I told her that I loved her, then she passed on silently when we told her she didn’t have to worry about us anymore (remembering what the hospice nuse told us to do).

No… I did watch an old man die in an assisted living facility years ago. I was working security, the night shift. His wife was there and she kept asking me to tell her that everything was going to be ok. I couldn’t lie. I just held her hand until the ambulance arrived. I don’t know how long they were married, I don’t really even know who they were. It was very sad.

I was there when my father in law died in intensive care. We each said our good byes while he was still lucid, but he was in severe pain as his organs shut down, and was given morphine for pain, and eventually enough morphine to stop breathing.

My mother, but she slipped into unconsciousness several hours before death.

@zenvelo “enough morphine to stop breathing”? Isn’t that illegal?

My Grandma. We were very very close. She was such a beautiful, lovely, wonderful, amazing lady.
She was 87, she lost sight in one eye, no one knew for months because she didn’t ‘want to bother’ people. She had a aneurysm in her back and ended up in hospital. I never left her side. One hour before she died, she saud to me ” you should go home now Leila, Grandma wants to go to sleep”. Heartbreaking even now.

Yes, my mom. My middle sister and I were with her all night. She passed at 5:18AM the next morning. It was hard, but it was exactly where I was supposed to be.

@anniereborn It was a side effect of palliative care.