Is physical appearance important to you?

Physical appearance is a factor, if we’re talking about choosing partners. There are some physical traits that attract me but because physical appearance is not really all that important, I’ve been with lots of different people and have begun to find attractive whatever it is that they exhibit. So, I don’t think people actually have set preferences, they may and do develop new attractions. As for my own physical appearance, I wish I didn’t have so many issues but having grown up in this society, it is no wonder.

Regarding a romantic partner, yes, I want to feel attracted to them, and therefore, physical appearance is somewhat important.

Yes it is, because i’m shallow like that, but happy.

Because every girl is crazy ‘bout a sharped dressed man.

On a partner yes. They have to be physically pleasing to the eye, to be attracted to them. Is it important to me personally? Yes and no. If I’m alone, or going to the shops or something, then no, I don’t care. I do care how my s/o sees me.

Less so now, in my 50’s than when I was younger.
I don’t have a problem with people that are somewhat overweight, or not as “hot” as when they were 25.
I resent the modern pressure to maintain the looks of a 25 year old porn star at this time of life.
Blame it on us boomers that are so obsessed with youth and can’t reconcile their aging and mortality.

Do not fucking tell me I have to be running marathons at 80 and still looking like I am 50! Pfft!
I am mostly attracted to sharp minds, wit, humor, intelligence and if these come packaged in someone with an extra 40 lbs. on their body…so be it!
I could stand to firm up these days and drop some weight but….I was just told the other day by a man I am friends with that he finds me ” Fun, funny, sexy and intelligent.”
The “funny and intelligent” part is what made my day, screw “sexy” at this time of life….I am still an attractive woman but it’s all about brains, humor, and common interests these days.

I like to joke about my definition of “BBW”....Big brained women!
In this context yes, I would qualify as a BBW! lol

Nope, never has been.

I would say the reason is that I was always taught to look below the surface and there are some truly beautiful souls behind unattractive faces, and vice versa.

Also, in my dating life (pre-marriage) the really good-looking men were almost always jerks. “If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife…” lol

Yes, actually, and more so now in ways different from when I was younger and very shallow. Now it is an indicator of taking care of oneself.

I am not taking about facial beauty or classic beauty, but being in shape and healthy. Gray hair? Meh. Curvy, but in good shape? Great.

Sure. I am a professional. I don’t want to look like a schlump.

Physical appearance is very important to me. Beyond the obvious signals around a sense of style, good mental and physical health are telegraphed by one’s appearance. I appreciate good hygiene, grooming and a sense of style in others, too.

Duh….of course looks are important, aren’t they important in most other things we choose from clothes, food, vehicles, dwellings, etc? It is unfortunate that people, unlike items, get offended when they are not unilaterally accepted off looks. Equally sad about people who deceive themselves in to thinking differently and not being real like @ucme, at least one thing I can agree with him on.

(edit) Liking what you like, be it the color of your vehicle, how your steak is cooked, or physical attributes of those who you desire to be your spouse, or simply boink for the night, is not shallowness, it is personal preference.

Long may that continue.

No, I barely recognize physical appearance. Poor awaremess has been associated with schizophrenia, and coupled with other symptoms I have noticed, I may have a mild version.

@picante Well of course, good hygiene and grooming kinda go without saying.
Big dif. between a somewhat overweight person who looks and smells good vs. a somewhat overweight person who has mustard stains on their too tight shirt and smells like a corndog. lol

I love the appearance of a good corndog, too!

@Coloma Now just because I don’t care how good-looking someone is, doesn’t mean I enjoy no hygiene. Especially teeth, I can’t stand bad breath or dirty teeth.

@Coloma Big dif. between a somewhat overweight person who looks and smells good vs. a somewhat overweight person who has mustard stains on their too tight shirt and smells like a corndog. lol
You can was away crumbs and/or corndog smell, you can even bathe with them if that is your thing, but you can’t use soap and water to wash away cellulite, or rolls of fat, you will just have cleaner fat.

@Hypocrisy_Central Well…I wasn’t talking about washing away fat, just mustard stains and corndog odor. lol
My point was that even if someone is overweight or less than totally attractive, that good grooming makes all the difference as @Picante mentioned.

Due to illness my body has changed a lot. I felt a loss of control anger and grief when these things started happening to my body.

In that way my physical appearance matters to me probably too much. I have learned to dress nicely hold my head up and smile even on days where I have trouble looking in the mirror.

A lot of people are great even fantastically friendly. Some not so much. But I can brush it off more. Turns out my standards for myself are higher then everyone else’s.

As to others people who try to hard or don’t bother at all are the hardest for me to feel comfortable or want to be around.

I have dated or been attracted to a healthy range of guys.

To me, looks are secondary. A bigot with a killer body is uglier than anything else in the world.

Looks matter to everyone, whether they’re willing to admit it or not.

My physical apprerance matters a lot to me. As far as other people, not really, as long as they have decent hygiene.

Oh yeah, as far as my own self goes, I try to look my best every day when I go to work and put in a pretty fair amount of effort on weekends, too.

Yes. Because. We’re human.

As far as romance goes, obviously I have to be attracted to some degree to the other person, or they merely would just become a friend. I wouldn’t consider myself to be too picky concerning physical beauty though, and there are some 5’s I find much more hotter than many 8’s and 9’s. It’s all about personality, mannerisms, demeanor and being able to be comfortable around them.