New haircut, different reactions?

I doubt you are less pretty. However, it seems men don’t really overfocus on women’s faces. They care more about body, and they kind of get an overall look at how she is packaged together. An average, to not very pretty girl, who has a good body, nice clothing, high heel and sexy hair is beautiful to most men. It’s why I agree when people say pretty takes work. Almost all women can be pretty, especially to men. I really think most men don’t even notice when women are naturally pretty faces, unless they are just so beautiful it is difficult not to stare at them.

Was your hair long before and short now? When I had very long hair, people would constantly tell me how pretty it was. When it’s a medium or short length, not so much. It is weird.

@JLeslie That’s a very, very interesting and true point. I never realized that. Before I cared about my clothing and makeup way more than I do now! Now I wear flats, tie my hair ponytail and wear huge baggy shirts with a witch hat! And before I would wear heels, leave my hair down, lipstick, tight shirt and tight pants!

@augustlan Actually no, I just got bangs!

It seems you answered your own question. It seems your hair isn’t the only thing that has changed.

Oh, and…witch hat?

@livelaughlove21 But, at the same time I feel like a face is a face, so how can someone be less pretty or unnoticed if she is the same?!

@JLeslie I am going to kick your butt. I see the eyes first. Yes I had to train myself, but damn lady give me some credit for trying.

@lovelessness If an attractive woman takes pride in her appearance and makes sure she looks good before leaving the house – nice makeup, stylish clothes, styled hair, etc, she’s going to get noticed a whole lot more often than when she throws her hair on a ponytail, skips the makeup, and dons a baggy t-shirt. If it was as simple as “a face is a face,” no one would bother putting in the effort to look nice. People take notice when you stop putting that effort in. And it has nothing to do with bangs.

@livelaughlove21 but why won’t people feel immediate attracation towards people who don’t put the effort in?

@lovelessness Because they simply don’t look as good as the people that do. Natural beauty is great, but you have to make it work for you. Baggy t-shirts and ponytails with no makeup isn’t going to do anyone any favors, no matter who they are.

Why does it matter so much how many looks or compliments you get? Why do you need the attention?

I wouldn’t even notice if fewer people gave me compliments I don’t think. I have no expectations of compliments even though I do get them.

Maybe the bangs look harsh? I don’t know what sort of bangs you have. We need a photo if you want feedback about how you look.

How long have you had the bangs (how many days, weeks)? If only a short time, maybe you are going to get a compliment today and you haven’t given it enough time?

Maybe your confidence about your bangs deters people from complimenting you? I know that sounds crazy, but I also know some people, women especially, who when they see a pretty confident woman they assume she is a bitch or a snob or concede or name some other negative adjective, which I find ridiculous and insecure, but there are people like that.

I’m just throwing ideas out there, just guesses. I don’t think I have the right answer necessarily, these are just ideas.

By the way on fluther we use a tilde ~ to mark sarcasm.

@lovelessness Looking good does take some work.

Oh, and a face is a face isn’t true.

If I understand correctly you cut only your fringe? Not your entire hair?

Long hair is a sexual trigger for males. A fringe though is neither here nor there. Perhaps you are going through and invisible week. I know I can be very invisible when I do not make an effort. In a way looking back to see if people are looking at you shows lack of internal praise.

If you love it, live it!