What are the symptoms of a midlife crisis and what would trigger one?

Whatever the women in your life don’t like is bundled under the term: “mid-life crisis”.

Laughs, no, this one was all on me.

@Adirondackwannabe

Sounds like you made a mistake you need to apologize for. I stand by my assessment. A Midlife Crisis is a made up thing. If you want to pretend it is real, then you are buying into made up rationalizations.

Wanting new and bigger boobs.

you aren’t thinking about a boob job are you @Adirondackwannabe?

Hey, if a boob job makes me sexy it’s worth it.:)

@Imadethisupwithnoforethought Yeah, you nailed it. But I cannot figure out why I made a really stupid choice. I was just fishing for answers to why.

@Adirondackwannabe Eh. I, sight unseen, am gonna say insecurity. That covers 85% of mistakes you need to apologize for later.

@Imadethisupwithnoforethought Hmm, interesting. I don’t think that was it. I’m very cool in my own skin, usually. Let me chew on that. Thanks a lot for that.

My hubby started trying to have a midlife crisis every other year starting at 34 or so. At age 40 I told him that if he wanted to have a midlife crisis, he was welcome to do it, but he only had ONE shot at it, and it had better be good. In the meantime, get back to work.

He tells that story regularly.

@snowberry Good for you. I’m not into drama, I usually use me head. Plus I’m 52. That’s a little old for a midlife crisis.

Yeah, it gets a laugh every time…:D

@snowberry It made me smile. Thanks.

I think “mid-life crisis” has become a catch-all phrase for when someone has a moment of feeling regrets for missed opportunities, or has a sense of disappointment or discontent in where they are in life as opposed to where they hoped to be. I don’t think there is a specific age range to which it is limited to, since nowadays “middle aged” is considered to be ~35–55.

@hearkat No, that’s not where I was coming from. I was fishing for answers, but I’m coming up dry.

@Adirondackwannabe – I’m pretty good at psychoanalyzing if you wanna give me the details… Otherwise, just break down your motivation: what was in it for you if everything had followed a best-possible scenario?

@hearkat Thanks. Not right now. But thank you.

I guess the answer is I’m a big time fuck up.

@Adirondackwannabe we call those people typical human beings.

You know, once I randomly spanked a woman and she thanked me for it? I don’t think you are solely responsible for our flawed state of being. Apologize, and try to do better.

I’ll have to think on that.

I dunno but I’m your age. I wrote about what happened to me and what I did on here before. I don’t know why. I will never know why I couldn’t get better help or something. That was a fuck-up that took ten years to even sort of make right. Don’t let your past determine your future.

I think it is when one day you wake and look in the mirror, you realise you are older and haven’t done certain things in life.

My experience: In my early 30s, I started seeing myself in an oppressive rut. I was dissatisfied with my marriage, my job, my weight, my clothes, my car… in short, I was dissatisfied with me, the me I had become, and I started doing everything I could to change all those those things.

I think I found my answers. Turns out it was an immature reaction to some family and personal medical issues. When faced with some questions I responded like a delinquent adolescent. I’m dealing with things and trying to act like an adult. Thanks for all of your answers.