Should I let the guy go?
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September 10th, 2013
So I met this guy on vacation and he seem like a really calm person and chill. Unfortunately, during the stay of my vacation I didn’t get to hang out with him as much since I was always scheduled for different activities and all.
He ended up telling me he was interested in me, I didn’t notice until I reread the texts he sent me. I thought he was interested in my friend. My question is should I let him go and not try to fix things.
We had two conflicts about trust. He gets mad when I say things like you can’t trust people right away. He wants me to trust him but it’s only been 3 weeks I’ve known him.
The first time it happened I went after him to explain myself then everything was cool. Then the other day I said not everyone can be trusted and he got mad again and he didn’t answer after that.
Should I text him again or let it go? The reason why I wouldn’t it’s because I already did it once and I don’t want to seem like I’m running after him. I don’t understand how it’s only been 3 weeks and I already feel something(bad feeling in the stomach) whenever things are kinda tense. Why is he getting offended when I say this?
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Take this as a lesson to learn from, and let him go.
Why would you bring up trust discussions with someone you have just met and don’t know? Whether or not he is worth knowing, you have set the initial level with him that you don’t trust him. I would say bye if that was how you met me. He hasn’t even had a chance to prove himself one way or the other.
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I was told to finish my high school before I date… things get complicated when you have to worry about adult things and pressures. My first date was in prom and I managed to focus on university. I started dating and I realize I should have waited until I had a degree and or my own place that I paid rent on. When you try to force relationships pain sometimes follows.
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@zenvelo You would say bye if you were him ? .... I didn’t say that I didn’t trust him but I told him ; I kinda trust you… Is it offensive to have said that ? I can’t trust someone without even knowing them.
” I already feel something(bad feeling in the stomach) whenever things are kinda tense.”
Why on earth would you want to run after him? Date someone you actually feel comfortable around.
Agree with @glacial. This doesn’t seem anyone to hold on to.
His reaction to comments about trust would be a deal breaker for me. And you’re just getting to know him? When you’re supposedly getting to know each other, why would you accept sharp anger at any level? Keep moving and think about what issues would make it a no go for you.
It shouldn’t be this hard. When you find someone good it should feel like rolling around on candy floss. If you need to ask fluther in the first few months you have a problem.
You have a bad feeling in your stomach? Go with that. Always trust your gut!
That’s an extreme amount of drama packed into just 3 weeks.
You’ve had your fun. During those few weeks, you’ve experienced the heights of elation and the depths of despondency. Vacation’s over; move forward and get back to the business of living your life.
I offer trust to everyone. Even complete strangers.
I trust them as far as I really know them.
I also distrust them as far as I really know them.
The parts I don’t know about a person cannot be labelled as trustworthy or distrustful.
If you have to ask, then you know something is wrong.
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