I want a relationship, but I can't find him?

You have to stay focused on being the best YOU & live. I met hubs at a random bbq on rebound lol

I’ve never found anyone when I go looking for it. If I relax and just be myself and have fun it finds me. Just put yourself out there and relax.

I met my husband online (how embarrassing) in high school. We met, spent some time together, and then began our relationship. 6 years later, we’re married and living in our first home with a puppy and a cat. An old married couple at 24. :)

The more desperate you are for a relationship, the less likely you are to find one.

You said it yourself, you are picky. You aren’t looking at men that don’t meet your list of what a man should have to be your partner. Open your eyes to men that are different from the men you usually date. You may find him.

My best relationship happened when I was happily living my life as a single person, doing the things I loved to do. Our paths crossed on a social network and we became friends there, then interacted privately. After a couple months, we hung out as friends and we felt so comfortable and natural together, we discussed becoming romantic and what each of us wanted so we were practically engaged before our first date. Four years later, we are officially engaged and buying a home together.

If you’ve never been in a serious relationship, you may not fully appreciate the extent of effort required to be fully committed to building a life with another human being. There are pros and cons to being coupled and to being single, so try to make the most of the pros of your current situation. Find groups and activities based on your interests, and make a point of expanding your social network. Live life to the fullest.

Have you tried one of the myriad dating sites? Preferably a paid site. Give it a go for a couple of months. Before you do, read other ads and have your act together when you write your profile. Have a good photo ready. You only get to make a first impression once.
You might try practicing on a free site first. OKcupid or plentyoffish. Once you get the idea you can go to the paid site.

<—- Kind of a technical geek.
I belong to some science organizations. I estimate the male to female ratio is 5:1.
The attendees are intelligent, curious about the world, have the resources (money and time) to enjoy the study. And many of them are single. The meetings are Friday nights. This is definitely not the party/club/drinking crowd.
If I were female I’d be signing up for those meetings. Astronomy, Mineral. Fossils, Life sciences, etc. It sure beats sitting home alone, you learn something – and you will increase your chances of meeting someone interesting.

I met my husband at a friend’s party, while I was head over heels for another guy, my bestie.

He was playing guitar, and we got to talking about music, and geeky interests. He had recent started going to my church, so I saw him from time to time, but I kept busy at church and we didn’t talk much.

Six months later he asked for my email address to get my input on a sermon he was working on for youth group. We chatted a bit after that by email and I eventually asked him to escort me to the Renaissance festival. That was our first date. Our son just turned five, and while are no longer religious, we go to Faire every year.

The other guy? Gay. I should have noticed that ten years ago.

Anyhow, my point is that as corny as it sounds, you’ll find it when you stop looking. At least, I did.

I agree with @Seek_Kolinahr that you’re more likely to find someone when you stop looking. Live your life as it that was true. Do things you like to do. Find a cause to work for. You may meet him when you least expect it.

You need a sweet guy who will appreciate you and probably has money to burn… Go to a star trek convention! Nerds are awesome, plus your kids will be exceptionally bright!

Believe that the best in life love and happiness is in front of you and it will be because you are a wise, thinking, Flutherer who knows just what you want.

I predict you will discover one day being attracted to males younger than yourself.

It is as simple as this; you are putting the cart before the horse. You will meet the right partner when the time is right for you and the right person comes along. There is no way to expedite the process unless standards are lowered. In the meantime, the best thing to be done is to embrace and prepare to be single for the rest of your life. After all, there is nothing wrong with this. In fact, it allows you to become more of who you really are.

All of the truly successful relationships I know of started at a wide range of ages. My partner and I met in our mid-40s, and it will be the first marriage for both of us.

In the meantime, focus your emotions on activities that are important to you. There is always the possibility that the right person may be there too.

I’ve gone on some dates in the past year and a half but nobody has really floated my boat. I’ve given up the search for now and have gotten a best guy friend and a dog instead. I’ve surronded myself with great friends and acitivities. Still hoping for love again at some point but not desperate right now.

I’ve never really looked for a love interest. Perhaps that is wrong I don’t know. Interestingly I have always had one or an admirer of some sorts. Usually through just living life each day, some I met through work, at work, at friends homes that type of thing. It kind of was a thing where it happened as a by product of living my life.

There is some merit I believe in looking actively. That way you can single out what you do want and find it I guess? Not sure how well it does work though.

@livelaughlove21 I met mine online as well. Do be embarrassed. lol

@lovelessness Just as others have said, it doesn’t happen when you’re looking. Be patient and be yourself. It’ll happen when you least expect it.