Have you grown to dislike a friend with whom you hit it off initially?

The wife half of our closest family and couple friend has not transitioned too well to a single friend for me. One on one she is too talky and controlling. Luckily, they live at a distance so it can gradually ratchet down.

My ”best friend”. It sucks, and sometime I think about calling him, but then I remember how he changed. How he ditched me because his girlfriend didn’t like me. (Or any girl he talked to)
He called me once, to apologize. I told him “I will accept your apology, but you have to make me believe that you’re sorry.” He never made me believe it. And I want him to fall apart like I did.

Sure, familiarity breeds contempt. People can’t hide their true selves for long in intimate relationships.

Yep, several I have let go in recent years. One was super insecure and always hypersensitive, upset over the stupidest things that she would take out of context, such as me having her try a new lipstick and complimenting the color on her and she then accused me of criticizing her makeup. Fucking seriously woman? lol
Trying to cheer up her after a breakup and suggesting she take a trip instead of dating again ( she was a serious relationship addict, could never be without a guy ) and she accused me of trying to coerce her into spending money she didn’t have!

Jesus…the woman was so emotionally high maintenance I just couldn’t take it anymore, especially being a very easy going, hard to offend, low maintenance female.
The 2nd was even worse in some ways, highly manipulative and it took me a few years to catch on to her games. Long story short I gave her the frenemy axe too.
I have zero patience for hypersensitive, overly emotionally reactive females and even less for manipulative, passive aggressive types. Toss in being obsessed with relationships and I just want to kill myself, well..actually them. lol

Two personality/behavioral types I cannot tolerate, at all.

@Coloma, are you sure we didn’t know the same woman?

@Kardamom Gah! lol

Yes some people never grew up when I was ready. Others moved and long distance communication didn’t survive. Others weren’t who I thought they were. Or were too needy. When I was younger there were those I came in conflict with that was too big or not worth it to patch it up. Both parties have to be willing.

I also have been dumped for all the reasons above and maybe then some.

Yes. Um… awkward That’s all I got.

Yeah. About 2 years ago my husband renewed an acquaintance with an old friend from about 20 years ago. I love his friend, and initially liked his wife. I thought it was cool that we could spend time together as a couple.
Well, as I got to know her better I realized she was narrow minded, racist and just…hateful. She expressed contempt for just about everything and everyone. Last time I saw her she expressed disgust over the fact that most of the players in the NBA are black. She said, “I remember when the white men played the game! Now they’re all black boys!”
The final straw came when we were watching this fake documentary on some fictitious water-born disease that supposedly destroyed this one fishing town. You could tell in the first 5 minutes that it was just a fictional drama, but the fact that it was presented in a documentary style…well, she fell for it hook-line-and sinker.
The guys spent the whole time out in the barn, and I was left just biting my lip and chewing my nails, keeping my mouth shut as she was exclaiming, “That’s just unbelievable!! Can you BELIEVE that?? Talk about a massive government coverup!”

Can’t relate to people like that. Just can’t.

@Coloma sounds like my sister-in-law. You couldn’t say anything to her without her standard response “What do you mean by that?”. Jeez woman! I meant exactly what I said, there was no hidden meanings! Couldn’t dump her though, family and all that. And, she got better after 20+ years of association; although I am not completely convinced that she didn’t just quit saying it while still believing it.

Oh, and I loathe gossips!
@rojo I swear….some people and their insecurities….just too much!

Yea and it’s quite a shame too since he used to be my best friend. He was always kinda a dick but it was in a humorous way that didn’t really hurt others. Anymore though he’s just a complete and utter insufferable prick who believes the world owes him something. I really can’t even stand being around him anymore

Yes. First impressions are fleeting and superficial. It’s very common to accept someone initially but learn to dislike the individual’s true personality or character.

Of course, there’s a nicer side to this coin – a shaky beginning can grow into a lovely relationship.

Yes, she turned out to be a fair weather friend and when I really needed someone she decided to disappear and then tried to come back when the dust had settled. I ignored her attempts at rekindling our friendship!!