Am I bisexual?
Until now, I’ve been quite sure that I was 100% straight. Lately however, I’ve been starting to wonder. I’ve found myself making out and messing around with the same sex, girls. At the beginning it was just something I did just to try it out, but now it has become something I’ve started to enjoy. When I talk to my friends, who are girls, about doing such things with the same sex, they get disgusted by the thought, while I’m totally cool about it. So far I have only had sexual experiences with the opposite sex, but I don’t find the thought of engaging in same sex intercourse any off-putting. Although I can see myself having sexual relations with girls, I don’t find it that easy to imagine myself in a romantic relationship with the same sex. Can I imagine myself having sexual relations with girls? Definitely. Can I imagine myself in a romantic and emotional relationship with a girl? Maybe. I know I get attracted to both boys and girls, but as I said the turning point is whether I’m able to be in a romantic and emotional relationship with a girl. So, would you define me as bisexual or not?
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I don’t think we define the sexuality of others. I think we do that for ourselves.
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That would be a resounding….YES. It’s something you should embrace and find the right person for YOURSELF. Androgyny is a fact of life and you should accept it. Denial ain’t just a river in Egypt.
It’s up to you. I respect however you identify yourself. Maybe you don’t need to worry about having a label. Just see how things go. See who you are atrracted to and who you wind up having a serious relationship with.
Bisexual is defined as someone who is sexually attracted to both men and women, so in that sense I would say yes.
My sister, @LezboPirate once said l to me “I think a lot of girls call themselves bisexual because they know that other girls are pretty, and they want to touch their prettiness. That doesn’t make them bisexual. If you can’t love a girl, then you’re straight.”
I’m pretty sure the standard theory in use today sees sexuality as a continuum. On one end there are people who are 100% straight, and 100% gay on the other. There are may people anywhere between too.
Sounds like the classic definition to me. You are attracted to both males and females.
I think @Hawaii_Jake is right that it’s really up to you to decide how you self identify. We do, for the sake of easy understanding, observe the behaviors of others around us and stick labels on them. I think most people observing you being interested in males but also making out with females would just assume you are bi. But it sounds as if you may not have explored the reality of sex and loving attachments with females enough to really wear that label yet.
Figuring it out sure should be a fin research project. Enjoy the adventure, and welcome to Fluther.
One good outcome is that it doubles your chances on a saturday night. Asking others about something only you can know is a great way to enjoy Fluther. Welcome!
Since sexuality is on a scale from absolute hetero to absolute homo, and a variety of flavors in between, explore your sexuality but don’t rush to put a label on it. When you feel you have found what your preferences are, then maybe you can label it.
Exploration is very common, more so amongst young women. It’s hard to find out about yourself without trying out a few things. In the meantime, enjoy it and learn what gives you pleasure and what pleases whatever partner you’re with.
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Have to disagree with your sister there. I have been a closet bisexual for years. I have had sexual experiences with a girl and enjoyed them. When I enjoy porn, I like the masturbatory kind, usually just one male or one female.
It’s not about girls being “pretty”. I can get aroused by them and have wanted to do sexual things with them. The difference is, I would never enter a real relationship with a female and wouldn’t love them fully like I do males.
On a sexual level, I don’t see women as anything more than a sexual interest but psychologically, I don’t want them as partners.
Yet I don’t think someone like me could be classified as straight.
No need to label yourself until you are ready. I was into girls very early but stuffed the notion of playing with them in my back pocket. I played with boys like I was supposed to, with an occasional make-out session with a very discreet girl. In college I experimented even more with girls but ended up getting married to a boy. I was miserable. Back then, in the 1970’s and early 80’s, identifying yourself as anything other than straight was a big mistake. Finally, I got the courage, with support, to walk out of the closet and identify as a lesbian woman. Take your time. Experiment. No need to make an identifying decision. Several woman I played with in college are in fact quite straight and just wanted to experiment. Good luck and welcome to Fluther.
Sexuality is a fluid range, and people are more than just “straight, gay, or bisexual”.
Why worry about labeling yourself? You don’t mention your age, but you’ll eventually find what makes you happiest.
Yes and no. You are the definition of bi
. But It sounds like somewhere deep down inside can’t see herself in a relationship with a woman.
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