What would you do?

It seems that sometimes we are closer to our non-romantic partners than to our romantic partners. I’ve experienced this too. I am learning we can love people in many different ways. Are they talking about the relationship issues? In any case, the romantic partner needs to talk to their partner about feeling left out if they are.

Me and hubby have a rule. Neither of us will have close friends of the opposite sex that are better friends with the one than they are with the other. This may be old fashioned but it has served us well for 22 years.
I would see this as being in the danger zone. We don’t like complicated or drama so we don’t even go there.
You two need to set boundaries in your own relationship that work for you.
Some people are comfortable with a completely open relationship while others can’t stand it if they even look at the opposite sex.
Your relationship, your boundaries. I hope you work it out.

It’s not unusual, but it is disconcerting. It is absolutely understandable for him to use an old confidante to process what he feels about the relationship and about you, especially early on since it is a way for him to get an objective opinion.

The question for you to raise with him is “At what point will you trust me to discuss our relationship without fear of us unable to handle it? When will you bring your concerns to me to answer and for us to share so we grow closer?”

The best way to handle this or any other relationship is to increase the communication between the two people involved. You can look for guidance from others, but only the discussions between the two of you will make the most difference.

Sometimes it happened in relationship when communication between them are not as good as they can share everything with each other. For this, they should make a good understanding and space in relationship to overcome this type of situation.

I was dating my first girlfriend, and I met a friend of hers when my girlfriend wasn’t there. She looked at me in an amazed way, and said “So, you’re Superman?”. Apparently, that is how my girlfriend referred to me. I had no idea. When I asked my girlfriend about it later, she said “She wasn’t supposed to tell you that.”