How to live a comfortable life?

Comfort is not just physical comfort, but emotional comfort too. And emotional comfort comes from being self actualized beyond the basic human needs of food and shelter; in other words, fulfilling one’s potential and becoming all that one is capable of being, so that one can meet the need to be good, to be fully alive and to find meaning in life

Frankly, I don’t think that a comfortable life is either possible or worthwhile. Discomfort, in some form, is a natural feature of existence. Sure, we have periods of relative comfort mixed in with the discomfort, but comfort doesn’t last (and even just knowing this makes us uncomfortable).

It is possible, though, to make your peace with discomfort. This involves letting go of the idea that discomfort means things are wrong, so that garden-variety discomfort doesn’t trigger your anxiety alarms.

It’s a little like getting used to eating spicy food. Your first exposures to that burning sensation in your mouth trigger a panic response. With more and more exposure, though, you stop feeling threatened by it even the actual sensation is just as strong (or stronger). Your tongue hasn’t become less sensitive; it’s just that you’ve learned to relax into the sensation. You’ve made your peace with it. You’ve come to appreciate that having an element of discomfort mixed into your eating experience can make it richer.

I’m not saying that abject misery is a good thing, just that a life of unalloyed comfort is not realistic.

Maslow’s heirarchy of needs

Better to travel hopefully than to arrive.

Comfort is a soft, fuzzy warm towel after a long soak in a tub long enough to stretch out in, followed by a quick run across a cold floor and diving back under a down comforter into freshly laundered flannel sheets on a brisk winters morn for an extra thirty minutes sleep.

Everything else is just gravy and gristle.

Total comfort all the time would be a real bore. Imagine floating in warm water with food and water pumping into you, your favorite music being piped into your ears. Nothing to stress you. Nothing good or bad to disturb you. TOTAL comfort? Why would you want it? Yuck.

People need challenges to grow and learn. A life of unadulterated comfort would hinder that greatly. Pamper yourself with comfortable things now and again but don’t turn your back on the discomfort of a challenge until you are sure you have nothing more to learn from it.

Comfort is more an attitude than a physical experience. If you are content/happy with what you have at any given time, you can live a comfortable life. Sometimes that means challenges to work out, but it can and should still be comfortable.

Comfort can be anything that makes you give a big sigh of relief. For someone it can be snorting 1 gram of coke. For some others it’s going on vacation. For some it’s a great glass of wine and for others it’s many glasses of great wine.

Somewhere, in this life be it respectfully or morally sometimes even legally depending on the persons idea of it, we have rules to this thing we call “comfort”.

And so no what’s comforting for my neighbour (8 am 4x random weekly loud stereo sessions) is not comforting for me. :/ wtf.

For me, comfort means living in a safe home, in a safe place, and free from worries that people are coming around to knock on my doors or tell me what to do in my own home (like when you’re a kid and you are told to be home at a certain time or you must clean your room before you can go out). That’s number one.

Number two is having enough money that if I want to go out to eat with my daughter or plan a trip or buy something that I want (within reason, of course), I can. I can’t afford a Maserati, but if I want something in a store or if I need a new car (maybe a Honda will do) or a nice coat, I like to be able to afford it. You know what I mean -not extravagant but take care of my needs and my family’s needs.